Help with parental preference

[Hesalwaysplayinggolf]

Dd is 2 and is showing extreme preference for me and has done for a few months. I am the default parent for everything. I get that it’s just a phase.

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and so I know that my husband is going to have to do more with her as I’ll have my hands full.

Ive been doing bedtime on my own with her for various reasons for a long time. Hubby tries to be as involved as he can but is met with constant rejection.

Anyone has any tips? Do we just have to commit to him doing certain things as non negotiable and dd just has to get on with it?

They have such a lovely bond and she adores playing with him but bedtime, nappy changes, comfort she goes bananas if he tries to do.

I hate seeing her upset and him rejected but things are going to have to alter.

My DD is nearly 2 and she tends to accept and move on relatively well now. If I say off you go to daddy for bath she'll shake her head but I'll say you've got to go to daddy for a bath so mummy can do X. Then we can go night nights. And she might wail but she'll be over it fast. I'd be inclined to explain what's happening and then follow through. It's not like he needs to do everything all the time just sometimes.

My DD was like that at 2 and we had another baby just beofre she turned 3; there were things that naturally DH did more of as my pregnancy went on and DD would tantrum but eventually let him do. We never really changed the bedtime thing though as once DS was born that became our time together

Could you go out for a walk so daddy has to do bath / bedtime? Come back in time to tuck her up and read a little story maybe?

Our son shows a preference for me and has done for 2 years now. It has got a lot better over that time though. The main thing that helped is me getting out of the house at bedtime and bathtime, and getting away for weekends when feasible to give that uninterrupted time. But it's really hard and I feel for you and DH.

Also I just noticed your 'default parent' comment - is it possible to change this? If your DH is around for bedtimes, can you implement a strict one day on one day off policy?