Advice needed!

[KnackeredandFat]

Hi I'm new here so I hope I'm doing this right.

I need advice from other parents. Because I just feel like I'm constantly chasing my tail and I'm getting sick of it all. I could sit and right a huuge essay but I'm going to bullet point summarise

I'm 31 (feel 91)

Last year I was diagnosed with PMDD.

I've been in the chemical menopause for nearly a year. Just started on add-back HRT but my menopause symptoms, although improved, are still causing me problems day to day.

I have three kids, twin girls age 7 and a boy age 8. Only 10 month between them. Not planned because who would be mad enough to do that! Still with their Dad.

I work from home also.

So at the minute I am finidng everything really overwhelming. I can't get on top of the housework and especially the laundry pile. Its an absolute joke and its really starting to keep me up at night!!! Pathetic isn't it. But it is what it is.

I need help. Do any of you have any tips/hacks? Anyone in the same boat?

Help!

Delegate the laundry washing and drying to your husband.

No ironing.
Everyone helps sort and put away their own laundry.

Exactly this. Make the laundry someone else's problem.

One thing that massively helps with laundry is having less clothes. It might be counterintuitive but it really works. If the maximum size of the laundry pile is all your clothes, having less clothes is going to make the laundry piles less overwhelming.

Same with crockery, cutlery, mugs etc. The less you have, the less can pile up and taunt you with your sense of failure.

One option might be outsourcing the current laundry pile to a launderette and when it comes back, choosing only a set minimum to go into clothes drawers/ wardrobes. Pack the rest in suitcases or something to quarantine it till you have the time and energy to look properly. It's a stepping stone rather than a solution, but it gives you a bit of space.

I'm a good chunk older than you, but also on HRT fairly recently, wtih 3 kids and a backlog of exhaustion. I feel your pain.