Can I see your willy? I want to touch it too. You can see mine!

[QuintessentialShadow]

My AP was horrified after taking my 5 1/2 year old to a play date to the home of a girl in his class. The little girl (6) had asked to see and touch my sons willy, in exchange for seing hers. Yes, a natural thing, I know. But my son, despite being "in love" all the time, and prefering girls, felt hurt by this. So he said no and got upset, and she went to sulk in her room. Things got better after tea.

Has anyone else experiences of this?

I said to him he was right in objecting, only mum and dad, and AP if she was putting him to bed and needed to wash him should be allowed to see and touch his willy, and also the doctor if there was a problem.

Did I handle it right?

I would not let him have the imppression that his willy was for just everybody to see and touch, it is private.

Quite right too -praise him for saying no but make him realise it's only curiosity not anything nasty that made her ask

(don't want him thinking he was wrong to refuse even if she HAS got problems!!!)

Which I'm not saying she has but......

I would aslo have a jokey chat with the little girls Mum making sure she knows you're not offended, but just to let her know, in case she needs a chat aboout appropriate behaviour etc!!!

Kisd eh?

Yes, thanks for reassuring. That is pretty much what I said about her behaviour, I just laughed it off and said sometimes girls are just curious.

I am hoping her nanny will explain to mum, as my ap and her nanny are friends, so they often do play dates together.

I find her mum a little bit "stand-offish". Career woman, jetting all over the place, nothing wrong in that, she just appears very serious and preoccupied each time I see her.

Can't see how you could have handled it better, you haven't made a huge thing of it and reassured him that he was right to tell her no.
He'll probably forget about it soon.

Could you come round to my house and tell my son that QS,'cos he is quite happy to show anyone his even though I do tell him theres a reason that they are called privates!!!!

The rule in the frogpond is that they shouldn't be playing any games that require people to remove their pants (thus neatly covering all the possible girl/boy/front bottom/back bottom variants).