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Anxiety about child getting hurt

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Whitedaffodils · 13/06/2022 10:50

Hi there I'm just wondering if anyone has gone through this or if I'm just losing my mind. Recently I'm getting increasingly stressed out about the thought of my child hurting themselves. She's 2 and is a climber she's had the odd tumble but never hurt herself properly. While obviously I was always worried about her the anxiety is becoming hard to manage recently, I work from home and if she is downstairs with my husband or babysitter I keep listening out for noises that she is in danger and if I hear her whinge or cry I immediately feel a tightness in my chest my heart starts thumping and cannot concentrate on work. I thought going back into the office would help but when I do that I find myself constantly worrying about "what if she falls from the high chair" "what if my mum has a heart attack while minding her" and I get so anxious and distracted I end up leaving early to go home.
This means I end up working late nights after DD is in bed.
I know it sounds like I'm an overbearing mum I don't trust those who are looking after her (and I'm sure they think that when I come running in with every small noise) but it's not that at all I know that she could have an accident in my care too I just cannot help the anxiety and feel the need to be there all the time. I was always a bit of a worrier but this is next level and it's affecting my life and relationships.
I've recently been through a pregnancy loss at 11 weeks (last month) so am wondering if maybe its connected? Like something to do with hormones maybe? Has anyone else been through this?

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RocketAndAFuckingMelon · 13/06/2022 11:02

"Intrusive thoughts." You may be able to get help from the GP. What works for me is recognising that the thought is an intrusive thought not a real one and to actually say (in my head or out loud!) "this is not real, this is an intrusive thought" and wait for it to pass.

Whitedaffodils · 13/06/2022 11:17

RocketAndAFuckingMelon · 13/06/2022 11:02

"Intrusive thoughts." You may be able to get help from the GP. What works for me is recognising that the thought is an intrusive thought not a real one and to actually say (in my head or out loud!) "this is not real, this is an intrusive thought" and wait for it to pass.

Thank you so much. I will link in with GP.

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BlazingRufus · 13/06/2022 11:20

She needs to go to nursery. They're safer than a babysitter, their job is to keep her safe, and she shouldn't be in the house while you're working, it's a distraction.

LeafHunter · 13/06/2022 11:26

She needs nursery or a childminder so you can’t hear things and you need therapy.

Whitedaffodils · 13/06/2022 11:34

@BlazingRufus her babysitter is her nan 2 days a week (she is paid and wants to mind her granddaughter) and the rest is her dad she is not actually in any danger they are incredible with her. Putting her into nursery wouldn't solve the problem just like me working in the office didn't solve it because the problem is my head.
I have worked very successfully from home for the last year and it's only in the last month that this anxiety has surfaced. I will be see my GP

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Atnaforange · 13/06/2022 11:46

@LeafHunter did you actually read the post. She said that she went back into her corporate office to work instead but that didn't help she had to leave early due to intrusive thoughts so not being in the same house as the child isn't the solution.
I'm sorry OP the last 2 replies have been quite judgey I would echo the first reply and go see your GP anxiety and intrusive thoughts are quite common after pregnancy loss so be kind to yourself. This will pass x

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