Feel like a rubbish mum

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My 2 year old has sometimes started telling me to “go away”, and has started to ask for his dad more often.

I know this is likely a very normal phase, but he has mainly wanted me his entire life and it’s a bitter pill to swallow. DP jokes that he’s dealt with this since the start!

DP definitely spends more time on the floor with him or just running around being silly, whereas I am a SAHM so often find myself exhausted by the time everything is done and resort to letting him run around the park or just watching a film with him. He goes to nursery 3 half days a week and I take him out somewhere to play every day, but I’m still feeling like a failure now.

Anyone else feeling this?

I put him to bed this evening and felt immense guilt that i hadn’t given him more of me, played the extra game 😣

You're not a failure, it sounds like you do loads with him! It's totally normal for toddlers to do this and you sound like a fantastic mum (although I'd be feeling the same if it was me, you can't help feeling rubbish about it)

Oh OP, please don't be sad! It's really normal for them to go through a phase like this, I'm sure you're a lovely mum.

My dd has spent the whole day shouting at DH to 'go away' if he so much as enters the room she is in.

She's now crying in bed because she misses daddy (he's out)!

OP toddlers are fickle.

My two are the same. Daddy's their superhero and that's a beautiful thing but it's hard sometimes.

I bet he still comes to you when he's sad!

Oh they do this all the time, it'll be water off a duck's back before long. 4yo DD1 recently sobbed and told me she wished I'd gone away and daddy stayed home, and then that she wished she and her sister had no mummy and two daddies - I wouldn't carry her up the stairs

These days we have two of them at it - one of us does something with 2yo, so 4yo immediately want that parent. 2yo is now joining in, so this morning the two of them were shouting "want daddy!!!" while I got the little one dressed and DH sorted himself after his shower.