Struggling with toilet training - help!

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Hi everyone - I'm really struggling with toilet training DD, who is exactly two-and-a-half. We've tried EVERYTHING - sticker charts etc., there's no pressure, no negative associations, in desperation we tried promising a Percy Pig if she uses the potty, EVERYTHING. Nursery isn't getting anywhere either. I'm starting to get a little frustrated because I've just had to conduct a major clean-up operation because she was rolling around in poo that had leaked from her nappy (it was everywhere, all over her clothes; I have a cold at the minute so I didn't smell it quickly enough). She just doesn't make any connection between filling her nappy and the potty. She doesn't even tell us that she's done a poo or wee etc.

What do I do? Surely at 2.5 she would start becoming more aware? I don't know how to help her make the connection with using her potty anymore

Just wait for 2/3 months and try again. No point in stressing about it.

Some kids aren’t ready until closer to 3

She doesn't sound ready.

Wait. She's not ready. We tried earlier and then did it at 2.5 with DD, it took 6-12 months and had I known better (and not put myself under pressure because she was my first and everyone else seemed to be doing it). I have three now and youngest is just out of nappies, took about two weeks with him to be accident free, took a week with second, but I didn't start either of them until they were 3.5. My DD still has some tooleting ' issues, which I am sure come from potty training to early.

Just wait she's not ready

Leave it, why are you forcing it? She'lll do it when she's ready. My son was just over 3.

She’s not ready. Wait a few months. When they’re ready it’s an easier process.

See, I thought she must not be ready, but her nursery is really pushing it and I thought they must be a good judge of when the time is right!

Not ready. Probably best to wait six months and try again.

My youngest is nearly 5 and still needs help at the toilet with no2s.

The others were around 3 yo.

They all get there eventually.

I talk about sitting and relaxing on the loo, with no mention of pee or poo. That way there's no expectations on the child.

2.5 would be considered young for potty training among parents I know.

Old school would be: nappy off, naked bottom, you stay home and potty time every 20 minutes or so.
some 1980’s books included crisps (salty so they drink lots of water and pee more often).
takes a full 3 days of 20 minute potty time and bribing.
lots of chocolate buttons (smarties or m&m’s)
you have eyes on them all the time and the potty close at hand.
recommended age 15-18 months, so your a bit late for the 1980’s version of potty training. You need to stay home and be at home for this.
yes it worked.

Just give it a break for a few months and try again then. Your DD doesn't sound ready. My DS1 cracked it in a morning at just 2. My younger one properly got it around 3.5 years! They're all different, it doesn't mean anything about their general abilities. Just be firm with nursery that you've tried and DD isn't ready, and you will try again in eg September.

Nursery will push it for their own ease. We had it for a while but we said no we're going to leave it and they were fine with it. He did it in his own time without any stress or upset.

I’m a bit confused about the nappy comment. Are you trying to potty train while ysing pull ups?

Really? Pretty much everyone in my Dad's cohort started at around 2, but we all used reusables and kids are ready much faster that way than if you use disposables, as they actually feel wet, so they learn the connection between going and being wet.

*DD

No idea when my dad potty trained.