Well it’s true… boob at night = frequent night waking

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Lots of people told me I had to quit cosleeping and giving my ds (20m) the boob at night and then he would start sleeping through.

then a few others would say that it’s not true.

well… it is (for me anyway). My son for 20 months would mord often than not wake up every 2 hours, sometimes hourly. I got a few 4 hours stretches when he was a new born but his sleep got progressively worse as he got older.

anyway, last week, I was on the bring of my sanity with the hourly wake ups. I’m sleeping in the spare room (where my dh used to sleep) and dh now sleeps in bed with him.

first night, 2 wake ups, since then, he’s slept through.

after a week I decided to cosleep one night as he seemed really unsettled and had lots of tantrums that evening. Fell asleep with him and thought maybe the ‘training had been done’ as it were. Oh no, woke me hourly.

sorry i think this is just a bit of a rant

i don’t miss the hourly wake ups but I miss sharing a bed with him. It feels weird sleeping without him. The first few nights I couldn’t really sleep because I just couldn’t relax. We’ve basically co-sleep his entire life. Initially out of necessity as that was the only way I got any sleep but eventually it turned out to be what was getting in the way of my sleep.

don’t know what the next steps are really. My husband is struggling to share a bed with him.

do we progress to cot? I think he moves around too much. Currently on a super king mattress on the floor.

where to go from here

thansk

xx

Cot will be fine for him, most babies move around a lot whilst sleeping

Ah love, I hear you. We had exactly the same experience. Night weaned a bit younger than yours (~1 year) and we went from waking up every 45-90 minutes to 2 wakes, then 1, then sleeping though in less than 2 weeks. I couldn’t believe it. We did exactly the same as you - DH coslept with DS in my place. I didn’t sleep for days at first worrying about the set up even though DS made such rapid progress!

We did progress to cot when DS was sleeping through and he was absolutely fine with it. He moves around quite a bit but has been absolutely fine in his cot bed. Started in the room with us then moved him to his own room. Have never looked back to be honest!

I’ve just left mine in a double bed on her own. I did the same with the older one. Only problem is they both sleep in double beds.

I think he’ll be grand in a cot from now on, maybe with a Grobag so he doesn’t get cold if he moves around.

It sounds like you’ve done the right thing. Unfortunately, boob at night DOES mean more wakings, and if you value your sleep this is just the way things have to be.

FWIW, I think you’re doing him a favour too - he’ll be getting much better quality sleep now, which as a busy 20m old he really needs!

Mine has always slept in the cot and she is mega active and moves around all night. I think that's fine!