Toddler saying no to people

[Jamile]

Hi, my daughter is very nearly two and she has all of a sudden started to say no to people in a way that she doesn’t want them to be there.
she was picked up from nursery by her granny today (which happens every week) and she through her lunch box on the ground and shouted no. She waves her hands saying “no no no”. She loves her granny and talks about her all the time at nursery.
as soon as they got home, she was fine and didn’t say no again.

im not sure how to get out of this phase, if it is a phase. Could it be anxiety?

She probably didn’t want to leave nursery because she was having fun. Pretty standard toddler stuff.

This sounds really normal OP. Just another annoying phase!

It's normal.

My kids used to shout 'No' and 'Naughty' at strangers in the supermarket when they were toddlers.

Sounds entirely normal, my toddler says no to everything. Sometimes he means it, sometimes he is just testing boundaries, sometimes he is just practicing putting words together in a sentence differently.

This is just being a toddler. For whatever reason, at that moment, she didn’t want to be picked up by granny from nursery. She hasn’t got the comprehension or language to say ‘I was expecting mummy’ or ‘I wasn’t finished playing yet’ so it comes out as an (angry) No. You don’t need to do anything. She isn’t being naughty and it’s no reflection on how she feels about granny - she just has no control over her life and that is infuriating. The No phase will pass as her language develops.

It's fun when they discover their power!

Just a phase.

I'm the most easy-going person I know but I bet even I went through a "no!" phase as a toddler (shortly followed by a "why?" phase no doubt!).

Sounds completely normal to me!

I’m pretty sure this is what 2 year olds do

until they get to 3 and ask “why” constantly

Ah yes, when they learn the power of no! It is just a phase, but I think particularly for a girl, let her learn about it and be respectful of her no's. Girls needs to feel completely empowered to say no, and integrating that knowledge into her as a toddler is a good thing.

My DS is doing this at the moment. Everything is no even if he wants it. It’s confusing, frustrating and I need to laugh otherwise I want to cry sometimes lol. It’s a phase.. hopefully a short one.

Just ignore it and change the subject/speak to somebody else !

You have discovered you have a toddler

A phase. DS went through such a phase of saying no to everything, we started calling him “[Hisname] No-No”

Shes got the no's, thats all.