Advice about people staying after I've given birth

[Daisy203]

Hi everyone,
As a soon to be first time parent I am a bit unsure what to do about relatives that want to come and stay right after I've had the baby (this summer). I'm more than happy with people popping in to visit but the problem is my inlaws and grown up step children live at least two hours away and would need to stay over if they came to visit. I just think I'll need a bit of time to figure out what I'm doing with a newborn without other people (who are a bit interfering/not particularly helpful or tidy) being in the house with us and needing feeding/ entertaining etc. Am I being unreasonable and what do you think is enough time before allowing visitors to stay over? It's not that I don't want to see them, I just don't want any extra stress until I sort of know what I'm doing a bit.
Many thanks in advance

A two hour drive doesn't necessitate staying the night!

A two hour drive is nothing to visit a new baby. They could leave at 10 and be back home by 3. My parents turned up for half an hour on the day I got home with my first (they’re not local). That was about long enough for a visit I thought! Don’t commit to anything OP. You have no idea how you’ll be feeling after birth, how baby will be doing etc. If you feel up to having visitors for longer than an hour let everyone be pleasantly surprised lol

I had the first 3 weeks just DH, baby and I.
I saw my mum briefly in that period for a couple of hours because I really needed that.
Inlaws live 3 hours away. They came up and stayed in a Travel lodge. They visited for 2 hours and then left.
Much to their disgust but there is no way I could have handled any more than that because I had a very poor recovery.

The recovery is all about you and baby. If youre not up for visits or having people stay over, then dont do it.
You wont get this newborn phase back and you dont know how you will feel.
Make no plans and only accept visits when your ready.
But god, dont have people staying over!