Advice needed

[Rachdar]

I need some advice.... I lost my mum in march then a week later my daughter found our she was pregnant straight away she was in hospital suspected ectopic In meantine her boyfriend told her he didn't want to know. After a couple of weeks back and forth to hospital they found the pregnancy everything ok. She has been very unsure she wants the baby and now at 13 weeks she took a pill to stop it and is having a surgical abortion today. I love my daughter but disagree with abortion not only an I dealing with grief of mum but my first grandchild and now my relationship with my daughter I don't know how to support her in something I find and class wrong. Then to top it all my partner of 3 years has told me that due to us having not enough us time ie sex he is saying it over I'm stricken with grief sex is last thing I want right now please help xx

@Rachdar I'm so sorry to hear you lost your mum, it's such a terrible grief to lose a parent

Your daughter is allowed to make any choice that she wants with regard a pregnancy, I understand that you are against abortion but please do not make your entire lifelong relationship about one decision that she has made. You haven't lost her unless you choose to step away from her now.

Regarding your partner, any partner who would at a time of grief and emotional turmoil threaten to end a relationship because he's not getting enough sex would be a red flag for me that he doesn't have your best interests and emotional well-being in mind. You obviously know much more about the overall relationship than we do from your one post, but think about it really hard, is he worth keeping around or would a short period of upset for an ending relationship ultimately leave you happier without his presence?

I feel so lost I feel im losing everything but I thought he loved and cared for me I just want all the pain to go away sometimes I feel me dying would be only way for this to happen. Me and my partner just came back from week in rome I put all my emotions with things back home on hold so we could have a good time which I thought we did but obviously I was wrong.