10mo up all night at the breastmilk buffet

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Any advice/ your experiences from other mums out there!? Anyone else going through this? Please tell me it gets better…

Really really struggling with 10mo DS sleep currently, he has always been a pretty crap sleeper but we are somehow now at the point where he wakes every 45mins at night and will only be breastfed back to sleep. He screams blue murder and will fully wake himself up if I or DH attempt to deviate from this routine with rocking shushing etc etc. We have been co-sleeping since he was 4 months for our own sanity and DH will sometimes sleep in the spare room so DS and I have more space in the bed. I have found sleep advice online just a minefield, not interested in CIO but honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I am finding it increasingly hard to function during the day and mine and DHs relationship is suffering as we are both exhausted. I am returning to work in a couple of months so really would like the situation to improve by then. Anyone else out there found that this gets better on its own without sleep training, and by what age!?

It gets better. 8-11m were the absolute pits for sleep for us, teething molars and separation anxiety and just awful. She started going longer stretches (like… two hours, sometimes three!) around one year, at which point we shoved her in her own room and DP took the evening wake-ups. The boob buffet only opened at midnight at which point we coslept.

She slept through of her own accord at 17 months. Once, mind you. Night-weaned at 19 months and softly softy, catchee monkey got better and more reliable. Still ends up in our bed at 3yo when she’s poorly but that’s kids for you.

Growth spurt, or teething. The one time mine teethed badly she was on my boob for 12 hours straight. Couldn't even go to the toilet. Had to be awake all night. She was bright red and only boob would soothe her. Next day fine.

Every other time she did things like this all night it was a growth spurt.

It's what they need. It doesn't last.

Once she started going on and off me all night at age 2 I put her in her own room.

Do what you have to do to stay sane but we feed them to give them the best start in life. It's about balance: what you can do and what's best for the baby.

What is his sleep like in the day? If he is waking that much, he could be overtired.

When this happened to me at the exact same age (10 months of waking every hour) we did CC. First night, 1hr crying at bedtime, slept 6 hours (A RECORD), 1hr crying in the middle of the night, then slept 4 more hours. Second night cried for 5 minutes and slept 7pm-7am. She's slept 7-7 every night since bar teething, sickness and nightmares.

Thanks @stuntbubbles @yesterdaytheycame this is reassuring to hear - perhaps I just need to try and accept and lean into it more! 😅 DS is definitely doing/ changing alot at the moment - crawling/ babbling/ teething etc.

@Pantheon Generally sleep is good during the day. Wakes at 6-6.30am and 1 morning and 1 afternoon nap each about 1-1.5 hrs each, last nap finishes about 3/ 3.30 and bed at 7pm. Other than teething/ illness DS is generally a happy and settled baby so, could be wrong but, don’t think he is over-tired during the day.

@MolliciousIntent Wow, well done! That sounds amazing. I am honestly terrible when it comes to DS crying - when DS wakes in the night he will cry out and babble ‘mama mama’ and if i’m not there straight away he will roll over to try and find me in the bed…hence why we are probably at this point! 😩