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MIL and uncle

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baxtersm · 23/05/2022 14:48

Anyone else think this is really annoying? So my DS's uncle and godfather is in his 30s and still lives at home with his mum.. (my MIL). He doesn't pay her rent and has a job so I'd imagine he has a good disposable income.. the thing is every time it's my sons birthday or at Christmas my MIL will come with a card and money in it and sign it 'Lots of love Granny and uncle xx'. Isn't he a bit old to have his mum do this on his behalf? And shouldn't she be letting him buy his own gifts etc.. when it last happened my son saw his uncle and said thanks for the money. To which he replied 'what money? Oh was it your birthday?'

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KangarooKenny · 23/05/2022 14:56

No, sounds normal to me.

declutteringmymind · 23/05/2022 14:57

They're from the same household so the card isn't weird.

user1474315215 · 23/05/2022 15:12

Of course it's weird. He's his godfather - he should be making much more of an effort no matter where he lives.

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Dillydollydingdong · 23/05/2022 15:15

I know this is a generalisation, but most men don't care and leave it to their womenfolk to do these chores.

Triffid1 · 23/05/2022 15:18

Why are you blaming your MIL? She's probably trying to hide the fact that your BIL is a useless twat who can't be bothered to remember his nephew/godson's birthday.

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 23/05/2022 15:23

For me being a Godparent is more about the vows he took at the Christianing not present buying but as his Uncle I would expect him to make a bit of effort. If you wanted to be petty back you could buy a household item for his birthday that MIL will use and a joint present for the two of them at Christmas.

anotherNCsorryfolks · 23/05/2022 15:24

Sounds normal to me.

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baxtersm · 23/05/2022 15:25

Triffid1 · 23/05/2022 15:18

Why are you blaming your MIL? She's probably trying to hide the fact that your BIL is a useless twat who can't be bothered to remember his nephew/godson's birthday.

Of course that's what she's doing but it's ridiculous.. I'd rather be got nothing from his godfather than his granny covering for him!

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luxxlisbon · 23/05/2022 15:26

I don’t think it’s that weird, most younger singly men just don’t care about kid’s birthdays.

Also do you get him birthday presents or is he just expected to give money to your DC? I find these things are often one way.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 23/05/2022 20:58

I’m not sure it’s annoying. More pathetic. I totally understand living at home given how expensive housing is, but to still act like a child? His mum isn’t doing him any favours by doing things on his behalf.

Finalcountdowntoourtripaway · 23/05/2022 20:59

If he is such a sap he won't be great godfather material...

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