Mixed sex siblings sharing bedrooms

[Januaryppo]

What age is too old to share?

DS is 10 DD is 8 they have their own rooms at home but will be sharing on holiday and it got me thinking about how old until they won't want to share/it won't be appropriate?

DS is quite immature and still reasonably happy to walk around naked. DD more self aware but very keen to share with DS.

I'd say it's fine but my friend was sexually abused by her brother in these situations. Grim.

On holiday it can be unavoidable but more generally, developmental literature/ research suggests its best to think about single sex sleeping arrangements, when the child starts wanting more privacy around the opposite sex parent and when they begin to learn more about sex and the anatomy - which is often around 8.

My 14yo niece and 12yo nephew happily share a loft room year round. Used to be the two oldest girls sharing but nephew was so keen on the loft oldest niece gave it up as a birthday present to him. Absolutely no issues. I don't get the British hang-ups around this, it's all so individual.

Imo they should be grateful to have a holiday - sharing a room isn't sharing a prison cell is it? And even during a period for dd - surely she uses a bathroom to manage them not a bedroom at home?

Same! In fact they are this summer!

My DC (teens) always share on holiday and I think that will be the case until they stop coming on family holidays. An extra bedroom just to sleep in would seem like a waste of money.

I have my kids share when on holiday and they are in their teens! I see no problem with it on a short term basis. It's more whether they get on well enough.

Lol at legal age.
Who's that knocking at the door? It's the bedroom police.

@mosside

I'd say it's fine but my friend was sexually abused by her brother in these situations. Grim.
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Sadly this happens.
But either way once they reach 10.
There is no come years then the line.
Fir either child.

Thanks all.

My thoughts are it's only a holiday and fine at any age unless either of them feel uncomfortable.

Really good to hear others thoughts.

DH never shared with his sister past age 10, although I think that was more because his parents wanted to sleep apart!!

@Hallyup89

Sadly this happens.
But either way once they reach 10.
There is no come years then the line.
Fir either child.

I don't know what that says, sorry.

It does happen, more than you think. Most girls who are abused are abused by a family member. Please be careful, her parents are still none the wiser that this went on

@Hallyup89

Robin233
I thought the legal age was 10.
Ok for this year but definitely rethink for next time.
That's a guideline for social housing to determine how many bedrooms you'd be entitled to. There's nothing illegal about it.
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Sorry wasn't sure if it was exactly league'
We had 3 boys and a girl at times - step children.
We always separated boys / girls
And I read that.
We just felt it was best for us.

It depends on your children, there is no specific age. How could there be when all children are completely different developmentally?

our children haven shared a room since at home since they were 8&6. However on holiday they shared until they were 17&15. To only for a week at a time and hey didn’t mind.

At home I think they ideally need separate rooms when the oldest gets to 10 (I think it's considered over crowding by housing associations then). On holiday is short-term so if they can have separate time in the room/bathroom to change clothes I think it's fine at any age.