Relationship after baby

[jadegreen1998]

Is it normal to feel a bit distant

i feel so sad I just always feel angry at DP, a few bursts of realising I love him

but he seems different he’s angrier. I feel more emotional and I don’t know if it’s hormones because my periods are worse since having a baby

but I just feel so bad and cry I feel like we’ve clashed a little since he was born (same thing recurring)

I feel like since I’ve gave birth he doesn’t even like me anymore (since about month 2) and I mentioned this to him and he said he loves me I’m being ridiculous but he’s just always so short fused and impatient it’s hard work

I think it's really normal to feel this way.

I would have said we had a rock solid marriage before having a baby, but there were moments in that first year where I seriously thought we'd end up divorced. He seemed like a complete stranger at times.

Now we're nearly 3 years down the line and although things are not the same as before (and never will be), we're getting back onto solid ground. I'd say it took a good two years for our relationship to recover.

My advice would be to keep talking, show some affection (even just hand holding) and don't take anything personally if you're sleep deprived and/or struggling with the massive life change.

Sleep deprivation goes hand in hand with a small baby, and being constantly tired makes people angry, irrational, short tempered and intolerant.

That goes for both of you.

It'll be tough for a bit, but you'll get through it.