Mum going through the menopause..

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Just wondering if anyone has any advice,

My mum has been going through the menopause for what feels like a long time now, she's a completely different person.

She's touchy, uncaring in comparison to what she was, tired, stressed and just completely not herself, she's not anything like I imagined she'd be with my kids.

Has anyone been through this? Is this forever now?!

Hi, not currently, but when I was a teenager my mum went through menopause and was like this. I think she actually felt almost suicidal at times and told us she didn’t love any of us. She’s a really loving mum and this was wildly out of character. She actually threw my dad out for a few nights, it was awful. But she recovered. She was having terrible problems with her thyroid too which I think was a big factor as it wasn’t diagnosed for quite a while. But yes, it passed, and she’s been her lovely self since. Good luck and try to just be kind.

I'm currently going through the menopause and had a few years of just trying to put up with all the symptoms. It was actually quite frightening as I was relatively young when it started and didn't really know what was happening. As well as the hormonal irritability etc, I had terrible brain fog, night sweats, insomnia so spent a lot of time hardly knowing what I was doing which made me even more bad tempered. HRT was a game changer for me. I think your mum needs a bit of TLC and (depending on what sort of relationship you have with her) perhaps a bit of a chat about what options might be available to her. Not everyone wants to go down the HRT route though, so you may need to just hold her hand through this

Yes I'm sorry. Menopause has made most of us realise how much people treat us as support humans and we don't want to do that anymore.

Have your thought of paying for childcare?