I am a mum of 2 kids, married. We have been through financial rollercoaster and all.
After 5 years of unemployment, my HB has found a job, making it easier for me (only breadwinner).
He has become hard to live with. He tells me that I have not supported him at all except his family. His life surrounds work and his family. I am left to make our household work. He works away from home at different city, living at his parents' house and comes back to us at weekend.
He is now the boss, egotistic, forgetting I paid his fees for pHD, fed the house, gave him spare money, supported him the best I can. I spare him the financial stress because I don't want him sad or feel less of a man. Why am I on the side now, we don't talk anymore because asking him questions was me trying to control him.
I am worried that he keeps transferring his frustration with his family to us. He just cannot tell them no but I get told no all the time. Something about me, I am very independent. Me asking for help is rare, es ok especially when it's not my expertise e.g. however car works or boiler not working. Why does he get upset when I ask for help.
I have asked for us to separate because this is not the marriage I want .. He refuses that he wants to do right for the kids. I am trapped and soooo lonely. I just want someone to wipe my tears or take my fears away. Right now, I may be pushed to having emotional affair and that's not me. I have only known him. Why is he choosing his family over us. They are all respectfully married, yet they call on him to do things meant for their spouse. I have spoken to his parents about my concern, biggest mistake ever.
What do I do? I don't want to waste the little money I have on counselling for it to go nowhere. I have spoken to him and according to him, I am trying to control him and it's all in my head, problem is my fault.
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Jenny1198 · 18/05/2022 10:56
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