DD pushing other child

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I've recently discovered that my DD has been pushing another girl at school and I'm shocked and disappointed.

As soon as I found out, I've messaged the mum of the child in question and explained that I've just found out, I've apologised, and asked if we can have a chat. She's agreed, and I will apologise in person as well.

DD is in KS1, and so is the other child - I'm not minimising what has happened - (it's not a one off either which makes it worse) but is this something that's typical of girls at this age? Actually, it doesn't really matter if it is typical - it's not acceptable.

We've spoken to DD, and talked about actions and consequences, we've talked about kindness, respect and being truthfu l.

DD will be apologising tomorrow and I will also speak to the class teacher. As regards punishment - a planned trip to the toy shop has already been postponed, but if any of you have any tips on how to deal with this, I'd be grateful

I think what you have done will be sufficient.
But why has she been pushing? To bully or be mean, or because the other child is hurting her with words and this is the only way she feels she can respond?

I'm not sure - DD has been very upset, so actually having a conversation hasn't been easy. I don't think she wants to be mean, but my concern is that it's not a one off, so there's 'something' I need to understand.

DD is an only child, she doesn't have a "best" friend, and she's not as outgoing as some children.

My dd had a similar / worse incident in y4 with a 'friend'. We never did get to the bottom of it, but I and class teacher were convinced there was more to it as it was SO out of character for DD.