Is my son rejecting me?

[RosieSmith2975]

So I’m currently pregnant, have a 1 year old and a 4 year old. My 4 year old never wants me and this is recent. When I pick him up from nursery he says he didn’t want me he wants daddy the same goes with playing, leaving the house, why can’t daddy stay home and you go to work etc
He also asks me things he knows I’ll say no to like iPad before breakfast or sweets for breakfast and then tantrums about it. He doesn’t do this for dad (we as together and live together). Today at bedtime he didn’t want me to lie with him after stores for the first time ever and I so nearly cried in front of him but obviously didn’t and just said of course daddy will lie with you then I got his dad but it was so difficult it’s been 4 years of me cuddling him to sleep pretty much.

Being pregnant I am so hormonal and am not taking and of it to heart because I’m sure it’s just kid stuff but it’s making me worry I don’t have enough time for him between being pregnant, looking after a 1 year and the mountain of work I have to do (both housework and uni). I am trying to make sure I have a day just me and him and my 1 year old goes to his aunties/grandparents.

It’s not that I’m feeling like insecure or jealous I just miss him? (I think that’s it)

So basically I’m wondering if anyone else is going through the same and over thinking it?

Oh this is so tough! My DD sometimes does this - I remember one weekend she totally rejected me and screamed if I went near her. I honestly swear she looked at me with such resigned resentment that she wanted a breastfeed that I am sure if DH could breastfeed she would have ignored me completely. I did go and cry in the toilet.

Its totally normal for them to swing between parents, he is learning to form attachments away from you, becoming more independent.

He tantrums to you and not Dad because YOU are his safe person, he knows he can let the emotions out. As annoying as it is, its a GOOD thing. He pushes the boundaries with you for that reason.

As hard as it is, try and be breezy about it, and go and spend the time on yourself instead, and i promise you the stage will end!

Thank you this helps to know it’s not just me!

Just had DD's first high school parents evening. (Year 7)
General consensus was that she's very hard working, hitting 'secure' in all subjects apart from in Maths and Geography where she's at 'mastery' level so no concerns with her academically. In fact all the teachers said was that she's not very confident and therefore a bit too quiet in class discussions.
All the above was to be expected, she's always loved school and done well in most areas.
The one bit I don't know if I should be worried about or not was her English teachers comments. She said she'd come into the school with one of the lowest reading ages... this came as a bit of a shock as in Primary school she always scored the highest in any reading scores. She loves books, reads daily both to herself and to us at home. Her teacher said she's been taken out of lessons for one to one help with a SENCO teacher which I knew nothing about. Is this cause for concern?
It was a timed 5 minute video call so there wasn't a great deal of opportunity to ask too many questions, all I could gather was that it was to do with her comprehension rather than ability to read the text.

Sorry! Didn't mean to post that on here. Thought I'd started a new thread 🫤