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Toddler Playing Advice

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LunaNova · 13/05/2022 12:07

Sorry for the long post! Toddler DD is 25 months and seems to be going through a phase at the minute where her favourite things to do are active things rather than imaginative play and colouring/crafts, which were her favourite things about a month ago.

When she was in her imaginative play phase I found it really easy to fill the days as she was quite happy to play with my involvement (playing cafe was a bit hit) or on her own. I didn't need to encourage her to play as she would just come into the living room and pick what she wanted from her toy kitchen etc. At the minute, she seems barely interested in imaginative play unless she initiates.

Now she's in an active phase I'm finding it more difficult to fill our days. She still naps for around an hour a day at midday, so we usually do a dog walk in a morning (which lasts around an hour) and thankfully as the weather is good we usually walk to a playground in the afternoon about 4pm (walk there, park time and walk back takes about an hour). Evenings are straightforward as she will "help" make dinner and then DH comes home so she plays with him.

We have options for active play in our living room but she doesn't seem to go to them without my initial encouragement - but will then play on them for a while. So for example we have a climbing triangle and slide, wobble board, ride of toys and a football. She will play on them on her own or with me but only if I say "why don't you go on your slide" etc.

If I don't encourage her to do these things at the minute, she will just sit next to me, cuddling, she seems quite content but she doesn't ever seem to get bored of doing this? We might sing songs/rhymes or I offer to read to her but she doesn't seem interested most of the time.

I think it's the sudden shift that has me questioning because a month ago she would quite happily move from imaginative play activity to the next and wouldn't sit down at all (like most toddlers!) And now there seems to be this huge amount of time where she sits and is seemingly happy to do nothing. Maybe she's just naturally tired because of being more active and needs the downtime? It's not been my experience with toddlers that they will sit so calmly for so long though so I'm just wondering if it's normal or do I need to encourage her to play more?!

She does have one day a week at a Childminder's where she doesn't stop all day and weekends she usually "helps" with chores or we go out all day so it's only really noticeable on days where we're in the house except for playground trips and dog walking.

What do you all do with your toddlers?

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PollyDarton2 · 13/05/2022 12:10

Sounds ok to me! Especially if she’s happy. Maybe she’s overwhelmed with choice, sounds like she’s got lots of options and possibly with the influx of 2nd birthday presents she may just have too much to chose from? Can you hide some bits away and rotate?

LunaNova · 13/05/2022 12:36

You might be right @PollyDarton2 about being a bit overwhelmed, we usually do rotate toys but it's more difficult with the larger toys and she does probably have slightly more out than usual after her birthday. I'll have a think at the weekend!

She seems happy enough and happy when she is playing. I just worry when she's sat quietly 😅 but I'm quite introverted and happy with my own company, maybe she's just the same 😂

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PollyDarton2 · 13/05/2022 12:51

I’m awful at remembering to rotate, but when I do hide something for a while I really notice it.

My toddler is much the same - he likes his own company. He doesn’t tend to just sit on its own… he does get engrossed in the TV from time to time, or he’ll sit and play with his toys on his own quite happily. But I reckon if your DD is happy then go with it.

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NannyR · 13/05/2022 13:05

Rather than encouraging her to play, you could setting out a couple of toys and you get down in the floor and play with them yourself, talk out loud to yourself whilst you are doing it, sort of along the lines of " hmm, I wonder what will happen if I roll this ball down this ramp?" and you'll find she'll probably start playing in her own way alongside you or start contributing her own ideas to your "play".

nearlyspringyay · 13/05/2022 13:08

I'd leave her to it!

LunaNova · 13/05/2022 15:18

Thanks all for your input, it's weird because it's only around the active toys (which coincidentally are her favourite at the minute) that she needs the encouragement, she's usually happy to play with other bits and initiates on her own. She's had a huge nap this afternoon, then come back downstairs and started engaging with her crafty things straight away. Maybe I was just hyper aware of it this morning and she was more tired that usual. Who knows?! Toddlers like to keep us on our toes that's for sure 😂

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