Sleep help please!

[MummaLeonax]

Trying the cry it out method is just an absolute no for me, my 1 year old wont stop crying for over 1hr or more does anyone have any other sleep training ideas hes never been a great sleeper, wakes up like every 1hr or 2 either fidgeting or crying I'm clueless what to do

What are doing when they are crying? How do they normally go to sleep?

You don't have to do CIO but controlled crying is v effective and swift for most children. Otherwise you're looking at softly softly methods that will take weeks or months to work.

I disagree from my own experience.

I didn't want to do cry it out so we did a 'gentle' method and it took a little over a week.

We established a rigid bedtime routine (and wake up time and daily nap times)

We followed bedtime routine - for us it was bath / book / the same two stories / milk / sleep sack / cuddle / white noise and star light toy. Then baby was placed in cot.

Day 1-2 - lots of cuddles in cot / reassuring words / lay down time to sleep. Until baby laid down and slept with lots of face stroke / hand holds / shushing

Day 3-4 mirror of above but slightly elss interaction with parent sat on floor encouraging baby to lay down at our level for affection

Day 5-8 slowly withdrawing the physical affection so baby would lay down have a small face stroke and repetitive phrase of 'lay down night night'

Then a couple of super easy nights when baby was laid in cot and parent sat near cot 'asleep' and baby fell asleep on their own.

It wasn't without a single tear! But at no point was baby left in their cot crying without a parent right there offering reassurance.

I preferred this method much more than standing outside listening to them screaming until they retched

@1940s if you don't mind I may actually try this as I feel like I've tried so many different things now for him to stay in his cot and sleep through he has always been a fussy sleeper, he has a bed time routine, so bath, bottle feed in his room, brush teeth, read a book, then me or my husband will place him in his cot this is about 8oclock say night its bedtime now we love you, either he will have a little moan or sit up, stand up, play with his teddy this is while we are outside, he starts fussing so we go in stroke his face/hands shh noises he then goes to sleep, sometimes he even goes to sleep on his own, then say 2, 3 hrs later he will start fidgeting fussing so either me or my husband goes in to stroke his face settling his down put his dummy back in and he can go back to sleep, then 1hr or so later the same thing happens this is repeated alot through the night 🙈 he seems to sleep fine if I bring him in the bed, I think I have decided I am not doing the crying out method after last night he was overly distressed nearly 2hours non stop crying i brought him into the bed he was asleep and still crying in his sleep if you get me because he wound himself up so much, I just really don't know what else I can try, I've tried seeing if he's hot, cold, thirsty, defo know he isn't hungry, I've changed his blankets, turned off the landing light, kept the landing light on, took away a nap, got in his cot with him 🙈 sat next to his cot this has been going on for months and I see no change what so ever in his sleep x