4 year old will only sleep with us there

[Belle82]

After some advice please?

My 4 year old will not go to sleep without me or my husband next to her at night.
Which I never used to mind but it’s taking up to an hour to get her to sleep.

She wakes at least once during the night an is up for a couple of hours, will only sleep if one of us lies next to her.

I know I will miss this one day but with a new baby it’s really hard.

does anyone have any advice as to how to wean her off this please 😔

What happens if you don't stay? Put her to bed, tell her you have to go do some chores, then leave. That's what I do with my nearly 3yr old. She yells a bit and then falls asleep within 2 minutes.

Could you put on an audio book or use a tonie/yoto player when she goes to bed

I had this with my 4 year old - I had twins on the way so was literally in a panic about it 😂
I sat my DD down and explained about the twins coming - she's a tough negotiator and requested a bunk bed - I said fine so long as she sleeps in it! About a week before the twins arrived was the first consistent nights she slept on her own. 🥳

If you've just had another baby I think go with it -it's probably totally normal reassurance seeking. DS2's sleep was messed up for a few months when DS3 was born but it did get better.

Could you set up a floor bed in your room so she can come in and be close to you without being in the bed or you needing to be in her room? DH also did all the toddler wake ups as I was breastfeeding the baby.

Thank you so much for all the tips I will try them all.
Sorry I should have said, this was going on well before baby came along & he is 6 months, I’m not sure we can go on like this much longer.

Have you tried problem solving with her during the daytime? (I.e. talk about how she feels at night and how it impacts you and what you can do differently but she'll still feel safe).

Or bribery 😬