DS has just turned 3. Recently he has started shouting at me that I’m a ‘silly mummy’ this is whenever I ask him to do anything he doesn’t want to do. He has also started copying whatever I say and repeating it back to me which, I admit, I find very annoying. He doesn’t do anything I ask and basically just ignores my requests/instructions. It’s embarrassing when he does these things in front of people and I feel shit and ineffectual. We are getting into a rut of me telling him it isn’t nice to call people names and silly and that I don’t like him copying me. I can get him to stop the copying of it if I make it a game but it’s so constant I don’t have the energy (I have a baby too) to be doing this all the time as it’s frequent.
Today we’d had a largely good day but we were at a park and he needed the loo. We’ve recently potty trained and I could see he had a few spots of wee where he’d started going then stopped himself. We’d used the spares so needed to get him to the loo. Obviously he didn’t want to go and leave the park so he ran away from me and was shouting at me for about 5 mins until I caught up with him on the climbing frame. I had to peel one hands fingers off the rope but then I snapped and wrenched his other hand off. I just felt so angry and frustrated and helpless! He threw himself on the floor and had a tantrum but got over it soon enough.
I shouldn’t have pulled his hand off and feel it’s a bigger issues of me becoming a shouty mum at the moment. I honestly feel really shit and like I’m the reason he is so argumentative, angry and takes no notice of me. He’s not always like this obviously but it’s happening a lot at the moment and it’s not a nice place to be. I’m constantly frustrated and weary from it all and feel like we are stuck in this horrible cycle.