Childrens birthday in December - am I being unfair?

[Godmumma]

My toddlers birthday is a couple of days after Christmas and the last couple of years she finds it so overwhelming with all the birthday gifts and Christmas within a few days of each other. So we've decided to take her away for her birthday (or as close as possible with it being so close to christmas) instead of buying her gifts. Obviously I'll get her little things to open on the day but a part of me feels like I'm being stingey which I'm not. She just gets so much from family and friends. Plus we'll take her out for the day on her actual birthday. What are your thought? I found a good deal for Butlins in November and we make it so special and magical for her and that's when they start the Christmas and tots week.

How old is she?

My daughters birthday is Christmas eve and she has her birthday gifts in the summer.

We still celebrate her birthday with a cake and singing but all her gifts she gets on her summer birthday.

It works well for us as she was finding it overwhelming getting all those gifts in 2 days and having to wait a whole year between.

Everyone now gives her cards and gifts in the summer and it takes the pressure off people visiting for her birthday Xmas eve.

A holiday is not a present for a child's birthday. Celebrate her half birthday instead

DH, me, dd and ds1 all have birthdays in the summer. Ds2 has a birthday right over Xmas. When he was younger we used to celebrate his summer day end of June so he got a special day in the summer too with his birthday present/party then. On his actual birthday we just had a small little celebration as his school friends were all off school for Xmas holidays.

As a child with a birthday a couple of days after Xmas I would say, when they are older, be aware they will compare with what any siblings get for their birthdays. It may seem they get enough presents around Christmas but as they get older they will still feel any disparity.

With a toddler, do what you want as they will be oblivous still and a day or sounds much better!

I think that’s nice while they are little, we did days out at that age plus a few bits & pieces. But my 5 year old would be horrified if I said she wasn’t getting any birthday presents 😂 My best friend as a teen had Boxing Day birthday and we used to have a sleepover & cake and she’d open gifts from friends. Her family celebrated her birthday in July and that’s when she’d have a main party as well!

@RuthW please be aware my child still gets gifts on her birthday but not as many as she's till only little.

But yes it's just for whilst she is small, I know it'll be a different story when she gets to school age 😂

I love the idea of a summer birthday my birthday is also a couple of days after Christmas and would have loved that when I was younger x

i know xmas babies whove had summer partys. Why not? Their own day, like everyone else

Yes to talking her away but not as her gift, just as a nice treat. I had a Christmas eve baby. When he was younger we always had a party for him in June to celebrate his 1/2 birthday