Concerned about development 1year old

[MummaLeonax]

Hello, my son has recently turned one and he doesnt seem to be doing much of the milestones like clapping, peekaboo, waving a little, poor sleep at night but sleeps brilliant in my bed 🙈 im starting to think he may have autism am I just overthinking or? just not sure whether to ring the doctors about his development incase so he can get some guidence with his development an early age if he does have it.

1 is still quite young and your HV team may suggest seeing how he goes. But if you are worried I would definitely have a conversation with your Health Visitor about it and see what they suggest. Have you had his 1 year review with your HV too? If not, you could talk to them then?

My DS (now 16 months) wasn't clapping, waving or speaking much at all but was hitting the rest of his milestones in his review. He suddenly just started doing those things at 14 months - except waving - he still doesn't do this one but I don't think that necessarily means anything.

Babies do develop at different rates and a key thing I took away from speaking with my HV was that babies / younger toddlers won't do things unless it benefits them in some way or is practical for them.

Tbh when he had his first check up cant remember what age think he was just gone 9months they also done his 12month checkup then too which baffled me as he wasn't 12months.. thats what I'm hoping happens with my little boy too just pick everything up all of a sudden everyone is telling me boys can be lazy and stuff but I overthink so much, and look into things and Google alot, that is actually a very good point like he doesnt seem bothered about clapping so why is he going to do it, thank you so much for your time in writing this to help me 😇 take care xo

Have you done the 1 year check or even looked up the questionnaire online? Good sleeping and sleeping in their own bed is not an official mile stone.

I know but I know with autism you can have poor sleep as someone told me, he done the 1year questionnaire when he wasn't even 1 which I didnt get so I'm not sure if he is going to do it again x

A hearing check is always a good place to start.

@MummaLeonax I completely understand that - I'm very much the same with Google and worrying over a lot when it comes to DS.

That is quite baffling, the development from 9 to 12 months even is huge. Could you ask for it to be done again now that he's older and just explain your concerns?

Yep exactly that. Tbh I think my DS doesn't wave because DH and I also don't really wave hi or bye to people. DS can however blow kisses because I do it to him all the time and always have. I do think it's what they see consistently and then copy, and what benefits them too.

ah okay I will ask the docs about that then thank you:) x

@Lottie917 I google everything then makes me overthink bloody more 😂🙈 yes I think I am going too I agree with you on that one, I do try to help him clap his hands but he honestly isn't interested at all, thank you so much for your guidance 😇x

You can find the 12 month questionnaire here: https://portsmouth.tricare.mil/Portals/130/12%20month%20asq.pdf. Make sure you check the scoring sheet at the end, though – they never expect 6 'yeses' in a section, and sometimes it's only 3 or 4 to be in the 'development appears on track' range.

If he's been focusing on other things like crawling and walking then that may be the case. How much have you been encouraging it? If you've been encouraging mobility over social interaction that could be a reason rather than autism?

@skkyelark aww thank you lovely will look at this now x

@PerfectPrepPrincess tbh he picked up crawling and standing against things himself, I try to encourage him with clapping nearly everyday, peekaboo I do alot with him he laughs but never does it himself, waving is like arm flapping and does it sometimes x

I wouldn't worry just yet. Are you comparing him to other boys, or girls or both? Girls are more communication driven.

My eldest pretty much sat like a potato until 18 months but you wouldn't know if now. He's 3 and a half and runs into preschool each morning with a big smile on his face and loves being on the go. Walks with me into town and back no problem and really is a joy. They're all different and I wouldn't worry op.

@PerfectPrepPrincess just any little one his age, like I know some 6month old are doing more than he is so I was like ah..

@bakewellbride that is very true they are all different im hoping he will pick it all up soon out of the blue :)

thank you everyone for your help, guidance and advice x

And if it helps further my eldest autistic child slept through from 6 weeks and napped until he was 4.

@ChairCareOh I know I need to stop it 🙈 its hard when he wakes up every hour or 2 😂