Feeling overwhelmed

[Mamabear04]

I'm 31 weeks pregnant and have a 2.5yo toddler and I am just finding it so hard at the moment. It's not been the easiest of pregnancies, up until a month ago I kept picking up colds and bugs from DD, every one just seemed to floor me for weeks on end. I've also had terrible pelvis pain and am waiting to be referred to see someone. I just feel so exhausted all the time and frustrated at not being able to be mobile like I was with my 1st pregnancy only this time I just feel like DD is suffering because of it. I try to take her out to various toddler groups/activities in the morning but after that I just don't have it in me. I'm finding it hard even playing 1 on 1 with her and i spend way too much time letting her watch TV. My OH is amazing and helps out in every way he can but he still works full time and has had to take on a lot of the house work because I just physically can't do it with my pelvis pain. I just feel a bit like a shit mum and a shit partner and I'm starting to fear if I'm even going to be capable to look after a toddler and a new born. Can someone please remind me if your energy ever even comes back? Right now I just feel like an absolute mess

Ah bless you, it's so so so tough. Similar age gap here and similar pregnancy. I was a total state by the end, had to nap every day and felt utterly gross. I won't lie, the first few weeks after the birth were tough, I was shattered and hormonal. It has got much easier though, the tiredness isn't that bone crushing fatigue you get in pregnancy, more just heavy behind the eyes oh god I could do with a coffee tiredness. Today I had my almost 3 year old and 3 month old on my own. We had a chilled morning doing bits round the house, then spent 6 hours out and about in the sunshine before watching a film and having a bath together. It was absolutely fine, I felt tired by the end but it was actually really lovely. You will definitely feel better once you're not pregnant any more! Good luck.

I try to take her out to various toddler groups/activities in the morning but after that I just don't have it in me. I'm finding it hard even playing 1 on 1 with her and i spend way too much time letting her watch TV.

I do this and I'm not pregnant

When I was last pregnant I used to just conk out in the afternoon, I just couldn't help it. I used my caffeine allowance to get me as far along as possible, but by about 3pm most days I just had to turn the tele on and have a nap cuddled up tp the toddler on the sofa.

I felt a bit bad about it, but what can you do? He actually loved it and seemed quite put out when baby arrived and the routine ended. You are so close to the end OP, just do what you have to do to get over the finish line.