Finding it so hard

[SparrowChick]

I have a 11mo DS. Love him to bits. When we chose to have him we knew it'd be difficult as we have no near by family support. I didn't realise if would be this hard continuously though.

With one thing and another we have had about 1 month of loveliness during his almost 1st year and that is it. He was diagnosed with CMPA at 4 months with silent reflux, so that 4 months was joy working out what was wrong. Then came the teeth, 4 at once, then thrush, 2 weeks break but then he got thrush again(that was fun) then another 4 teeth. Then 1 month of loveliness followed by a severe cold, chest infection, gastroenteritis and now covid and thrush AGAIN.

It's literally been 10 months of an upset baby for one reason or another and it's got me so depressed.

I feel really fed up, poor DS is obviously massively fed up and I just feel so jealous of everyone else enjoying life where I feel like I'm doing a "teach-first" experience in nursing with no mentor.

Hi OP, sorry to hear you're struggling.

I feel really fed up, poor DS is obviously massively fed up and I just feel so jealous of everyone else enjoying life where I feel like I'm doing a "teach-first" experience in nursing with no mentor

Who says other parents journeys are butterflies and roses?
I can guarantee you, we all had our HARD times as parents.
My DS is 3 now and its still hard, I use to to think the baby stage was the hardest but then he turned to a toddler and I've changed my mind.

It's not easy love; but we push through because we love our little ones and the good outweighs the bad EVEN IF the bad seems to me more. The first 2 years of DS life, the boy just didn't sleep. I was so sleep deprived that I was hallucinating! Like you I don't have much family around, it was just me and DH but like I said we just keep pushing through.

It will never be easy but it does get better x

Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone! My 11mo had terrible terrible colic that didn’t even start to get better until about 5 months. The first 3 months she screamed all evening and the next two she cried all day long. Then when the days got better we hit a sleep regression and the nights became so hard. I’ve never even worked out what was wrong but think it could have all been due to reflux and a tongue tie which was cut late at 5 months. I think my LO has had about 9 colds in 11 months and we’ve had 3 a&e trips when she’s been really poorly.

I totally totally understand when you say you feel jealous of others. I find it very hard not to feel jealous. I know motherhood is hard for everyone but some babies are definitely alot easier than others! I remind myself alot how lucky we are to have a baby and try really hard to focus on the things that have gone really well for us like breastfeeding and weaning, and when she’s not poorly so she’s so happy and giggly it melts my heart, and not on the very difficult start we had and the fact she still doesn’t sleep anywhere close to through the night! It’s really tough when they’re ill but hopefully it means they will be less ill as toddlers. It can only get easier from here! I have a friend who had the most chilled out happiest baby in the whole world and she’s just realised how easy she had it at the beginning now that baby is walking and it’s gotten harder but for me it’s just getting easier because nothing can ever be as difficult as those first few months!

Take it one day at a time and try and do things you know baby likes. We go to lots of baby classes as my LO loves those nomatter what mood she is in!

Thanks both for your replies. This is just a woe us me rant I guess. I know people have it far worse and yes @Peaplant20 not even have it at all.

But OMDFG is it hard. Today has been one of the worst. I've failed miserably at keeping cool. 😪

I hope to dear God that DS has a super strong immunity going forward!!!

It’s good to just let it out sometimes!