My 2.5 year old returned home to me and my partner, after spending the day at her fathers house. She was role playing her little toys and said that one of them was sad and need a mommy then said “no, needs a boyfriend”
That’s not a word I’ve ever used around her so I asked her calmly “what’s a boyfriend?”
DD didn’t come up with much, but said that Auntie P (aunt on fathers side) had asked about boyfriends.
I asked “who is a boyfriend?”
And she said my partners name, let’s call him Bernard.
I said is he? And she said yes, Bernard is my boyfriend.
I didn’t push further as I don’t ever want her to fee l like she’s getting grilled with questions when she goes from one house to the other, but later on she also said “Auntie P says boyfriends, no way!”
Theres a long history of bitterness from her dad and his side of the family, and I am assuming from this conversation that they are asking my 2.5 year old about my live in partner.
I’m uncomfortable with the idea of them grilling my girl to find out personal info about me and “Bernard”, not because I don’t want them to know (I’ve invited them to meet him before we all lived together!) but because it’s not fair on the kid. Also think that at 2.5 she’s too young to be having adults chat to her about boyfriends and girlfriends, and it’s bothering me. Before I raise it with dd’s father… Am I right? AIBU? I don’t want my judgement clouded by history so wondered what you ladies think. Thanks ✌️