Baby cries whenever I put her down

[Orangepen13]

Hi,

hoping for some advice or solidarity here. My LO (6mo) cries every time I put her down. I’ve been dealing with this by not putting her down 😂 but this is becoming increasingly difficult with weaning. I just need to put her down for 10 mins to get food sorted and then clear up the mess after, but she screams constantly.

Ive tried the bumbo, a bouncer, high chair, play mat. I’ve tried playing nursery rhymes, keeping her close, speaking to her the whole time, she’s just not happy if I’m not holding her. I used to wear her in the sling but I’m finding it really hard now she’s bigger to do these jobs safely with her strapped to me.

so now she’s just crying on her mat while I’m stewing plums 🤦‍♀️ Any advice?

(I try to get as much done in advance while dads at home, but sometimes I just can’t remember to do it all, and I really can’t leave the food mess without cleaning it - that’s my boundary there)

Oh I remember that, it is just heartbreaking. How long has it been going on?

I used to do a lot of singing which sometimes helped, but unless you think they are ill, I do not see what else you can do really if you have to make some food for them! I know the noise is horrible.

You have my sympathy. My DS was the same - never, ever tolerated being put down at all from about 48 hours old. It was the depths of the pandemic when he was 6 months and thankfully DH was working from home so helped with food, but there were still times when both DS and I were in tears while I frantically scrambled some eggs and cut up avocado

Will she tolerate a back carry in the sling? My DS hated it, but an equally Velcro-y DD of my friend LOVED being carried on her back and she got loads done like that, with worrying about her DD being too close to the hob or anything like that.

It got massively better as soon as DS could move. I’m still talking 5 minutes here and there, but he’d be happy to scoot around and explore. He’s 2 now and the most fiercely independent and none clingy toddler 🤷🏻‍♀️

I know screen time isn't ideal but would you let her watch kids TV for 10 minutes here and there while you get jobs done?

they just have to get used to it- cant hold them constantly. Took a little bit longer with my second to cope with the bouncer but got there in the end. Either have it facing you whatever you're doing or put on some cbeebies whilst they're in it.

Thanks all! She got herself in such a state earlier… it’s been particularly bad this last week. Screen time might be fairer than the absolute distress she’s been getting into.

@AliceW89 a baby carry is a great idea - do you use a special sling for this?