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ds was potty trained, now 4+ accidents per day - please help at wits ennd

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smoggie · 10/01/2008 18:42

Began potty training with ds2 (2.9) about 5 weeks ago...had tried previously but not ready so left it until he was completely ready. Went really well and after a week we didn't have any accidents. Cut to Christmas eve, complained of pain in penis, looked and it was read and swollen, so took him to GP, got antibiotics and it cleared up. We had 3 days of accidents as it was painfulfor him to wee so I think he was just trying to delay going - hence the accident. He's been having accidents on and off since, then in the last week he's just completely stopped going to the loo and we're having 4+ accidents during the day.
I should mention that he's also been having probs with weeing inside the loo and we're getting it shooting out onto the floor.
So, I think it's a combination of not wanting to go to the toilet and pee ouside of it, and the infection setting hiim back.....BUT I've tried EVERYTHING to get him back on track - even going back to potty, rewards, penalties, shouting (in shameful desperation). I just can't take another day of cleaning up pee and crap continuously.
I keep asking him and you can guarantee within a minute of me checking he'll wee. He then promises faithfully to go to the toilet next time but doesn't.
PLEASE can somebody offer some alternative strategies because I'm just getting annoyed with him now which is not helpful in the slightest.
I've ordered a loo seat with a boys anti splash thingy on the front to try to stop the spillage issue and even got him to choose the design etc., but in the meantime what can I do to get him to recognise when he's about to wee and not get too distracted/lazy to do something about it
TIA

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Nemoandthefishes · 11/01/2008 11:26

try a reward with him if he obviously knows what he is doing..maybe choc buttons backed up with sticker chart to get a prize??

foxinsocks · 11/01/2008 11:27

I'd go back to the doctor in case the antibs haven't cleared the infection up. Let them check his wee just in case.

busybaby · 11/01/2008 20:41

Smoggie - I totally sympathise with you - dd (2.3) has been successfully trained for about 4 months now but over the last 3 weeks or so she has been shockingly bad at the whole thing! I can't work out whether she is just being lazy or downright stubborn about it all. I have also tried everything - OTT praise when she gets it right, ignoring wet/pooey knickers, bribery in the form of chocolate, explaining rationally and calmly that big girls do not do this, getting angry with her (I also know this is not helpful but have struugled to keep my cool at times - we are only human afterall). I now have a sticker chart on the go which was helping, but she seems to have got bored of after 4 days because it's not working any more!

So I can't exactly offer any advice, but wanted to show empathy and will also be grateful of anyone elses suggestions!

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smoggie · 15/01/2008 22:59

Sorry I'd given up on this, didn't check after the first 24hrs - thought it was a dead thread!
Thank you for posting!
Things have improved slightly - he's now going to the potty but only after me watching him like a hawk, constantly checking and getting him to go when I can see he's desperate. Small steps eh?
He only had one accident today so fingers crossed for nursery tomorrow. If he's still as bad as ever at nursery then I'll re-inforce the buttons with a sticker chart...and yes possibly think about going back to docs to check re: infection.
Thanks again
ps busybaby - didn't really didn't do anything new, just OTT praise for successful wees and trying not to go overboard at the accidents. Got my mum to ring and congratulate him a few times on potty sicesses....might have helped, she puts the fear of god in me at times

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busybaby · 17/01/2008 23:12

Hope things are still looking up for you Smoggie.
We've had an excellent day today - only one accident! Yippee! But yesterday was dreadful - at my mum's house - she got through about 6 pairs of knickers in as many hours! I can't see a pattern with it - I did nothing different today...
I have wondered if she avoids going to the loo because the toilet set is cold (?!?!) as she has gone back to using the potty in the bathroom but won't use the toilet - precious little princess that she is!!

smoggie · 22/01/2008 12:49

busybaby - I've got one of these
www.onestoppottyshop.co.uk/toilet-seats-accessories-c-60.html?osCsid=8hf20cg5cp6c9ghbh32itvint6
for ds2 in readiness for going back on the loo from the potty - got him to choose it and it has a lovely anti-splash thingy for ...eerrm, well, potential overspray/leakage!!!
No more cold toilet seats for your ds!!!

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