It hasn't been something that concerned me till DH asked, but now it's on my mind.
He wondered out loud if DS1 is happy.
He is contrasting him with DS2 who is 2 years younger and bouncy, cheerful (mostly) and spends time with us.
DS1 in contrast spends most of his time at home in his bedroom, and answers in monosyllables.
So is this normal for a 14/15 y o boy?
DS1 has friends, and spends time with them (most of Saturday and part of Sunday this weekend).
He loves him computer and phone and it is hard to drag him away from them.
He is hard to talk to, and in particular doesn't talk to DH.
He needs a lot of sleep and normally doesn't get up to lunchtime at weekends.
He is doing fine at school - never in trouble, completes homework etc.
He cycles 5 miles to school and back, plays football and goes to the gym so is getting a reasonable amount of exercise.
He is increasingly difficult to get to join in family things.
He is often rude and uncooperative but is usually pulled up on proper rudeness and will apologise.
Largely he just wants to be left alone - this is a hard one to judge as we would like to spend time with him but he can be pretty sullen/unenthusiastic.
So normal or worrying?
I have suggested DH ask him if he's happy.
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axolotlfloof · 02/05/2022 11:12
Donkeyinamanger · 02/05/2022 13:02
It could be entirely normal, or he could be unhappy, as it sounds like you sadly know from experience there is really no way to tell whats going on in someone else's head without asking them. I would be fairly blunt with him, and ask him to put his phone down for a bit and actually speak to you. Tell him you love him and you are worried about him. That you are happy to leave him alone to game etc in private, but that you want to know he is OK, and there is nothing going on that he needs help with. Hopefully he will be able to reassure you, but if there is something going on, at least he will know that he can come to you with it.
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