AIBU to not want future baby's God Parents to be DPs cousin?
we have a three month old but have discussed future babies and who we want as God parents, he has stated he would like it to be his cousin and her husband; however, i very much dislike the idea of this, as sadly i have grown to not like his cousin very much.
she makes snide remarks, constantly makes everything about her, and gives unsolicited opinions, especially about our baby, because she had a baby the previous year.
we have a groupchat with a few member of DP family. in this groupchat she has requested family members to buy/send her stuff, more than once. She asked DP to give her his old phone when he upgraded and asked her brother the same thing,
which i don't see why she would need two phones, meaning DP couldn't give a phone in to trade for a new one (which would've made his current phone contract cheaper). she also talks quite badly about her brothers girlfriend in this groupchat.
the last straw has been when she said something along the lines of "there are things that can be avoided, children are always sick, but you can do things differently to ensure they get sick less often" when our LO was taken to hospital for an infection, insulting our parenting and insinuating it was our fault our baby had to stay in hospital for 3 nights.
doesn't help that MIL is constantly comparing me to her and saying how i should raise my baby based on how her niece (DPs cousin) raises hers. when i mentioned weaning perhaps at 4 months (with consent of our GP and health visitors) she says it's too early or how she didn't wean at that age and what we should start weaning with, and overall just comparing her experience to how i should wean my baby.
i made the mistake of asking if abroad they have the formula and porridge that we're expecting to start our baby on and she said "it's too early to give baby that". we bought it in advance but HAVE NOT given baby any porridge and do not intend to until he's 4 which is in less than 3 weeks. but it's just overbearing that she's constantly got something to say.
i don't want this woman to be the God mother of my future child if she's already so intrusive with a child that isn't her God child, but don't know how to tell DP this. i'm starting to not be able to stand her at all. AIBU for this?