Is this normal?

[mamahi]

DD is 4 months old and for the past month or so sleep has been such a struggle

Shel’ll go in her cot for 4-5 hours then just wants to sleep on me. Not even next to me in the bed (in a safe co sleeping way)

She’ll only settle on me, Dh has shaved his chest and tried wearing a thin T shirt and it’s like it’s my smell she wants she won’t sleep or settle on him??

i feel so guilty why can’t I get her to sleep in her cot? She used to 😭 and I don’t want to be creating a bad habit but I give in each night when I’ve tried to get her in the bedside cot for 3 hours straight and I end up worrying about her sleep because she needs it

I’m like a walking zombie I get the odd nap but each night is like this what am I doing wrong

It’s worth mentioning I’ve been trying to get her to solo nap in the day so sometimes we have a nap spread over 2 hours as she wakes after 20 mins cranky then settles when I rock her again then put her back down etc

4 months sleep regression. It’s normal. Sleep isn’t linear and gets better and worse all the time. My eldest only spent 2 months in her cot and my youngest is nearly 3 and has never slept in a cot. Cuddling your baby isn’t a bad habit!

@Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas is this it??

and I just worried as she lays on her front on my chest is this okay for her head/neck and spine? I worry about her not laying flat on her back all night

If she is bedsharing with you then it’s fine as long as it’s done safely. On her front on your chest is fine if you are sitting up on the sofa during the day and not tired but if you’re tired or during the night you need to follow the lullaby trust safe sleeping guidelines.

The four month sleep regression!
This too shall pass.
Don't worry about bad habits, she's four months not four years old.
Do whatever it takes to get most sleep possible.

Yes it's normal for a baby to want to sleep with their mother. They have no object permanence and when you aren't there they don't know for instance you're in another room.

This is the reason I began co-sleeping at around one month. I stopped torturing myself and causing distress to my child and put her in my bed, just the two of us, safely, no pillows etc.

She slept with me until aged 2 and honestly it's one of the best things I ever did.

I couldn't handle sleep deprivation and stress. This eradicated both, for us both.