I’m a solo, not out of choice but I needed to leave the relationship and take my then 13 month old with me. After a year or so of going back and forth with court, my two year old and I have settled into our new home and the relationship with her dad is getting better (for her sake rather than I have fully forgiven him), the issue I have is that I feel so overwhelmed as a solo parent, I don’t have any friends or family close by to help and my little one is going through a super tantrummy phase and nothing I do is good enough. Breakfast? Nope, on the floor, change of nappy? Nope, let me scream the whole house down and kick everything. I sometimes go into the bathroom to cry because I feel so overwhelmed at the constant whining and screaming. I don’t believe I am a bad mum and in spite of everything I have been through since I left her dad, I got up and chose a path that would benefit my daughter and I (currently a full-time law student via distant learning and I work part-time as an advocate for dv victims). Her dad during our court order mentioned he wants to have her two days a week but has since then (court ordered signed in Jan) only takes her once a week as he doesn’t get many days off. Can I ask him to take her for two days a week? I am worried he will say he can’t because of work but if this is what you asked for in the court order then it shouldn’t be an issue. I hate having to wait for the one day a week he has her to have a “day off”, not really a day off as I do the house work, study or do some shopping. I’m just tired, really tired and need an effing break! I don’t earn a lot to put her into nursery and I have chosen my degree above work for the time being. I just feel like I am at the mercy of that one day a week he has her and sometimes he can’t have her because he has other commitments but I want this to be a permanent thing for us, for her and for their relationship as father and daughter.sorry for blabbing, so much going on above.
i thank you for your answers in advance.
xx