Leaving baby for weekend

[Iamtiredandsoismybaby]

I’m planning on going away for 2 nights for my sister in laws hen do & leaning my son with his Dad while I’m away. Wee guy will be 7.5 months old & my husband will be staying with his own Mother the 2 nights I’m away for some back up.
Baby is exclusively breastfed & flat out refuses my milk & formula from a bottle(we have tried every formula & bottle going) but he will sometimes drink my milk or formula from a cup.
He tends to wake 2-3 times at night looking for boob sometimes to feed & sometimes just for comfort.
I really want to go away but I’m quite apprehensive about leaving him. I just don’t want him getting stressed & then in turn stressing out my husband when he doesn’t have access to boobs.
My husband has assured me they’ll be absolutely fine but I think I’m having some mum guilt?

Not sure what I’m looking for here maybe just some reassurance?

Also want to add that my husband & son are absolute bestos. They have an amazing bond & he is an incredible dad, very hands on & even manages to settle him in the night when we know he can’t be hungry.

I also think it is worth noting that the bottle / milk issue is just one side of it. Gently I think that you are underestimating the impact on your baby of your (for them) sudden disappearance for 48 hours. However hands on / loving your husband and mother and law are it is likely that you are the primary attachment figure for your baby and your absence has the potential to be quite traumatic for them.

I read this with a total '😬' face thinking that it sounds like a terrible idea to me, but thinking you'd have lots of support for going in the comments. I'm quite relieved the consensus is that this is a bad idea. I'm really sorry to not give you the response you want, but unless you've successfully trialled having your baby drink all their daily milk from a cup all day/night, then you mostly likely will be leaving your son hungry all weekend just so you can go and have a nice time. Would you leave an older child at home alone with no food in the cupboards? It's not fair on your son, I'm sorry to say. Take him with you, or don't go.

I am shocked that your taking off for two nights and expecting your EBF baby to do what? Suddenly start taking a bottle? At their age milk is still the main source of food. The poor thing will be very upset - you either need to not go or plan properly and stop BF and get baby on a sippy cup if bottle resistant or leave daddy with the bottle and you leave for the afternoon

Eeep. We managed 10 hours when my son was that age. My brother died very suddenly and I had to get to my mom or I wouldn't even have attempted this. As pp have said, if your husband can be close by that would be a better option or weaning before you go?

I am ebf my 9 month old (solids are offered and she eats a little) and I couldn't leave her yet! I've had to turn down lots of social events because she just isn't ready. I could not do that to her or my partner. She not only needs me for milk but also from the comfort of breastfeeding too.

I'm EBF my DD. It's my sisters hen party in 6 weeks and I don't want to miss it st all, ive Ben trying to get DD onto a bottle but she refuses. I think my husband and baby are going to have to come and we’ll just have to stay somewhere else: itl be an absolute ball ache and I'm now dreading it

She's 5 months sorry

If you pumped at work, how did baby take the milk if he didn't take bottles?

I have a 6.5 month breastfed baby and I couldn't imagine leaving her for 2 nights at this age. She needs me (and my boobs) too much.

Mum guilt from another Mum implying that the OP is being deliberately cruel. OP is probably a first time mum and came on here for advice on what to do for the best.

My advice is that unless a baby will happily take a cup feed or bottle, it's not fair to baby. But babies also need mums for comfort not just nutrition and the boob is that source of comfort for ebf baby.

When I went away for a night at 9 months my husband came and stayed nearby so I could bf at lunch and bedtime etc. It's hassle but best for baby.

@qpmz At the end of the day, OP is wanting people to tell her it's okay to let her very young baby potentially go (very) hungry so she can let her hair down for the weekend. On this occasion, I think a bit of mum guilt wouldn't go amiss.

Oh do one.

A 7.5 month old will be on solids and also op has stated will drink milk from a cup.

Your reply is beyond unhelpful, I hope it made you feel good about yourself making a mother feel like shit.

*Oh do one.

A 7.5 month old will be on solids and also op has stated will drink milk from a cup. *

Maybe you should take your own advice @ladydimitrescu.

Most 7.5 month olds who are "on solids" are barely managing more than a few bites/spoonfuls of solid food a day, so they're still heavily dependent on milk for their calorie needs. OP also said he would only "sometimes" drink from a cup.

Ultimately, the situation is going to be incredibly stressful for her baby and OP asked for advice, which people are giving.

Most people have given advice - the previous poster simply wanted to be unkind. There's a massive difference.
I'm aware more goes on the floor than in at 7 months - but implying the baby would go "very hungry" is ridiculous, as if they as parents would let that happen. If baby wasn't eating op would go home.

@ladydimitrescu Obvious OP is a caring, lovely mum who has EBF her baby day and night, which we all know is a lot of energy and work. She has posted here because she feels guilty, but wants some reassurance she can leave him for 2 nights even though there is a very real possibility he will go hungry. It's a struggle to find the balance between too relaxed and too anxious, I know I struggle with that. IMO sometimes the guilt that comes with motherhood isn't always martyrdom, or from societal expectations, sometimes it's there for a reason. It's not like an unavoidable emergency, where she needs a hand hold. If you disagree, that's fine, but you are in the vast minority.

Honestly? It's not a good idea. I left my 10 month old for a wedding 3 hours away and was gone from 10am until 12am. He was very unsettled and my tits felt like they were going to explode by 1pm. Everytime I called my mom and heard him crying I'd have to go change breast pads which I ran out of by mid afternoon.

I honestly hated every second of it and couldn't wait to get home. I dont think you will enjoy it unless you can get him to reliably take a bottle some time before the trip.

I'm not hugely precious about leaving babies - I went away for the night from my formula fed firstborn at 3m with no anxiety at all.

BUT a bottle refusing EBF baby is different. My second was one of these and I first escaped for the night when she was 2!

The risk of your baby ending up dehydrated and inconsolable would be too much for me. Sorry.

Yay, a zombie!

@TwoPintsOfGuinnessAndAPacketOfNuts why have you revived a thread that's over 6m old!?

Because this is the same old question loads of mums ask on here? Six months or six years ago.