How did you know you were ready for no. 2?

[Lelophants]

And were you right?

we’ve been TTC no. 2 for a while, took DH ages to get on board. I keep having moments of doubts and sadness, firstly about how we’ll cope but also the reality that my life will be even less back to normal than it is now. It’s something I really want (I actually want 3 which sounds mad I know). But DS is 2.5 now and I’m starting to miss my old life. I’m finding it harder to be at home with him in some ways.

how did you know for sure?

I’ve been so upset when it keeps not happening so maybe this is just my defence mechanism to have doubts, I don’t know.

No advice lovely but wanted to say I’m about to start TTC and my son is 1 and a few weeks. I know I’m ready as I’m becoming seriously emotional over not having a babe anymore and my son is really independent/loves bubs. I just feel ready. Good luck and hope you can conceive soon :) your son will be even more advanced when number 2 arrives but if you’re missing your old life I assume it will get much harder with 2.

Hi, this sounds tricky. Are you sure you want number 2? Are you doing this for you, or because you think you should? From what I've heard from others, it gets much, much harder for a bit, but then you have the larger family you want for the rest of your life. But I do think it's important that you do this because it's what you really want, rather than some idealised version of the perfect family.

Does your DC go to nursery? Do you work and get a break?

I think most of us miss our old life but honestly weather you have 1 or 2 it isn't going to bring your old life back. It's tricky... I guess you could wait another year. How old are you both?

Early 30s but we’ve been trying for over 6 months now. Yes and no with nursery and work. It’s been an especially busy and difficult few months so that may be why. I know deep down I want a bigger family and have for such a long time. It makes me feel sad to think I won’t have more.

We’re going to try and just chill out a bit more I think. I agree I’ll never have my old life back and saying all this, I don’t think I want it back really! So not sure what this is all about really.

I don't think there is such a thing as a right time moreso if you know you want another child thats the important thing,just wait and let it happen and if it does then great

You don't really sound like you want two. It's okay to just have one, if you already struggle having no time to yourself etc then two is going to be harder. At least now you're out of the baby phase and getting through the toddler years!

I'm 3 months pregnant with my second. First is 20mo so will be 2yrs 3months gap.

Not sure we are sure!!!

I find my son a real handful and can't imagine having a baby on top, no idea how I will cope. Am looking into a part time mothers help to help with the new baby when my son isn't at nursery.

We always wanted 2 or 3 kids, want them close in age, I'm going to be 38 this year so the body clock is really ticking. Not sure how long it would take to concive so we started trying when my boy was about 14mo and had finally begun sleeping through the night for a while.

I knew we wanted two or three before we started. I also wanted them close in age.

It's ok to have one. It's ok to wait until you are sure.