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Teen Swearing

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 27/04/2022 12:51

DD13 uses the F word A LOT round us, even though we tell her not to. She claims she can’t help it which is nonsense as she doesn’t say it in front of other family, our friends etc. She’s school refusing so gets bored & picks fights - one of this morning’s was about the language. DD is neuro divergent so if I don’t walk away, she would probably argue for hours. We get a lot of projection too ( I have used the word myself in extreme anger & DD is not going to let me forget it!) Should we be ignoring it?

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Parker231 · 27/04/2022 12:53

We have always had a zero tolerance for swearing. If she isn’t attending school, what is she doing during the day.

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 27/04/2022 12:53

I don’t have teenagers yet but I would say pick your battles. What is worth your effort working on the school refusing or the swearing? The SEN board maybe to give you advice on how to deal with your situation.

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 27/04/2022 13:06

Parker231 that was another argument we had this morning - DD was complaining of being bored but kicked off when I mentioned school work. I have told her that if she wants to continue being ferried around to friends houses etc, she needs to do some work & show us. Basically she’s been living the life of Riley & it has to stop. Hopefully she’ll be in a new school for the start of year 9. She has been really struggling with her mental health but needs to get back into a proper routine.

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 27/04/2022 14:23

Anyone else?

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NrlySp · 27/04/2022 14:29

Ignore her when she swears? Or she’s allowed a certain amount of swears a day - say 6 to start off with and working down to 2 over the course of week.
I wouldn’t be taking her to friends houses by car if she wasn’t cooperating with house rules.
what are at home hobbies she enjoys. Maybe that’s a solution to the boredom?

pizzacutterbun · 27/04/2022 14:31

Ignore it. It's not worth the drama, it's just words and the least of your problems if she's not going to school.

She may also be doing it to get a reaction.

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pizzacutterbun · 27/04/2022 14:33

And when you say neuro divergent what do you mean specifically? Is it diagnosed?

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 27/04/2022 14:42

pizzacutterbun not officially but many professionals that she’s seen have mentioned ADHD & AD & CAHMS are arranging official tests.

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 27/04/2022 14:42

I would say she’s definitely on the spectrum

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