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50/50 court order, son refusing to go

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Sickofbully · 26/04/2022 08:16

12 year old son. Emotionally abusive narcissistic exhusband. Initially son wanted to live with me. When I refused exhusbands "generous offer" of buying me out of FMH he told me he'd take our son. Campaign of parental alienation, control, coercion and manipulation of our son and within 3 months son was insisting he wanted to live with dad. I never believed it to be his genuine wish. For fear of alienation continuing I agreed to 50/50 equal care. Has been in place for a year. 2 months ago son decided he wanted to be with me majority of time. He told his dad. Apparently there was rage, swearing, threats and his dad told him he would find it too upsetting to see him less and perhaps should not see him at all. Emotional manipulation or what? He is now refusing to go at all. Do I have to return to court? Clearly I am not complying with current order. His dad has not contacted him in 2wks and has cancelled his phone. He received lots of texts from ex's new partner saying she doesn't understand what's going on and trying to arrange contact - despite witnessing the abusive behaviour/threats/manipulation.

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clpsmum · 26/04/2022 08:31

I would get in touch with your solicitor asap. I wouldn't send my twelve year old in your situation but I would get legal advice to make sure it's not you that's in the wrong.

Good luck. Your ex sounds a complete arsehole xx

Sickofbully · 26/04/2022 08:51

Although finances aren't the issue here, I'd add his generous offer to buy me out (and be allowed to "keep" our son) was less than 20% of the equity. Shows what sort of person he is. Through solicitors the house was sold with a 60/40 split in my favour. He's the much higher earner. The equal care was always to punish me and for his financial gain.

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