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(Please don't flame me I need help...) Just found out DS is to start nursery on Monday ... but hes not out of nappies ...

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MrsKittylette · 09/01/2008 22:35

Well thats not strictly true, he was potty trained at about 2.10 - wore undies and used the potty and got to a point where there were no accidents,

we didnt get to the stage where he went out without a nappy as things got pretty hectic and I didnt really know how to handle him being out without one on, then the wedding and christmas was weeks away and i was out all day everyday with the kids and just shoved nappies on him,

then got that virus and was diarreahing everywhere so we left him over christmas with the nappies as his tummy was till unsettled.

Basically he didnt have a place at nursery till September so my NY resolution was to get him sorted.

But i found out today he has a place at nursery the last one - only 2 hours a day - and he starts on monday!

What can I do??

Hes bright and used the potty straight away, but im worried ...

new environment, new people, strange little toilets, remembering to ask to go, pulling up his own pants!!

its just all too much

I really dont want to turn down the nursery place.

Is it doable?

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fishie · 09/01/2008 22:38

kitty i have seen your other thread. PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER. i would be sad to send a small boy with no nappies and a hated uniform who will be miserable. is that what is going to happen? then don't and i will cheer.

pinkspottywellies · 09/01/2008 22:39

Are nurserys not used to a few accidents when new children start? I imagine it's unsettling for most children to begin with and concentrating on weeing will be the last thing on thier minds.

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MrsKittylette · 09/01/2008 22:40

Fishie please dont say that,

thousands of children go to nursery and I want him to go, its just hard as a mum to let him,

surely all kids (and mums) feel like this at first?

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WigWamBam · 09/01/2008 22:41

It sounds as if he is doing brilliantly, and the chances are that he will be absolutely fine.

I would ditch the nappies completely during the day now, though, just to start getting him used to being without them all the time.

And relax! If he has an accident, they will change his clothes - it won't be the first time they've had to do it.

fishie · 09/01/2008 22:44

kitty i am being mean. but you are being a bit soppy too.

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MrsKittylette · 09/01/2008 22:48

Soppy?

Hes my child and hes starting school! What do you expect me to do? Not give a shit or consider any of these things? - then throw him in there monday afternoon and walk away and not even think about him till 3:30?

How could a mum do that?

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hana · 09/01/2008 22:51

they will be used to dealing with accidents, and potty training (did they say he had to be trained?)

it's not school - isn't it a playgroup/preschool sort of thing?

Jenkeywoo · 09/01/2008 22:57

We were in a very similar situation as this last summer with my dd starting nursery. Eventually we just went for it, put her in pants but told nursery that it was her first week in pants and that she needed to be reminded to go to toilet at least every half hour - at that stage she was weeing all the time! she had a few accidents but she managed really really well - don't forget it's only a couple of hours a day so there can only be so many wees in that time! I was also really worried about poos but she somehow seemed to have the ability to hold them in and poo at home! It's perfectly normal to be fretting about your little boy so don't worry, in fact I'd be worried if you weren't worried!

fishie · 09/01/2008 23:01

kitty sorry i didn't mean to be that brutal. i do have big issues with uniform so am bringing that in too. ds is due to go to nursery this spring too (although the waiting list is so long he is unlikely to have to go through with it).

and i work four days a week so am not in the same situation.

ComeOVeneer · 09/01/2008 23:02

Kitty ds (turned 3 the week before christmas) is still in pullups and has been at nursery since sept. They originally said they prefer them to be toilet trained but haven't commented. He simply isn't ready, not for lack of trying on my part.

paddingtonbear1 · 09/01/2008 23:07

I can understand your worries, this has come sooner than expected. Do all you can to prepare your ds before Monday, maybe its now time to bin the nappies. I bet he'll get the hang of it in no time. Do they expect him to be out of nappies? They will expect some accidents though, so don't worry about that - dd is 4 and still has the occasional one at school!
When you talk about nursery to ds be v positive and say it will be fun. It's just 2 hrs which will go quickly,they will be used to children starting and should give them more attention and help. good luck!

LynetteScavo · 09/01/2008 23:07

Will you stay to settle him in, make sure he knows where toilets are, feels OK to ask staff for help before you leave him? What is their settling in policy?

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MrsKittylette · 10/01/2008 11:44

Hiya

thanks for the advice,

Ive rang the nursery and told them hewont be starting Monday, I told them he needed some thime and so do I and that he needs to be fully potty trained too,

They were really good about it and said 'just let us know when you are ready'

Im thinking to aim for after the Easter holidays.

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MrsKittylette · 10/01/2008 11:44

time, not thime!

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Fizzylemonade · 10/01/2008 16:24

Oh Kitty, my son regressed just before he started preschool nursery due to me having another baby and I was worried sick about him, but he was fine.

Hopefully there will be a place after Easter but you have said that you have turned down their last place

My friend works in the nursery my son went to and when we applied it stipulated that the children have to be potty trained, but my friend says as long as you have or will make an effort at home with potty training and you are honest then the nursery are fine. They just can't abide people lying about it.

It is a big worry when they go, I am a sahm so he had only really known me. We tried toddler groups but he is very shy and wouldn't leave my side. He is highly sensitive, stands on the sidelines for ages before joining in and sometimes just doesn't join in and I honestly crapped myself when he went to preschool but he was great and it was the making of him.

Fizzylemonade · 10/01/2008 16:27

Oh, I forgot to say, that it is only for 2 hours a day, you provide them with spare clothes in case of accidents (or paint all down them) and it gives you a nice break.

Ds1 did 5 mornings a week.

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MrsKittylette · 10/01/2008 18:24

Fizzy, his names still on the list and will 100% be starting in september,

but she said if hes ready before then give us a ring and well sort itout, she seemed to suggest he can have his place when he is ready so im not worried at all about him not 'getting back in' Not at all

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