CMS help

[thisisme2014]

Hi all, looking for some help or wise words if possible!

my ex and I have had 50/50 shared care of our DS for three years.

I haven’t claimed maintenance due to this, he would pay for anything, such as wrap around care and clubs, falling on his days

However he has recently stopped this so I’m footing the bill for all wrap around care along will all additional clubs DS does (-admittedly these fall on the days DS is with me)

I know I can’t get maintenance but does anyone know of anythjng I can do? I don’t mind the clubs so much but I’m paying for ex’s wrap around care too!

any help advice or being told I should be paying this welcome!

Thanks All!

Me x

He should be paying for his days. Speak to the provider and see if they can invoice you both separately for your allocated sessions? Have you spoke to your ex and asked him to pay again?

Why has he stopped paying? Has there been a disagreement? What was the total amount the wrap around care costs?

You can go to CMS. Do it ASAP.

Do you know his salary?

Thanks everyone

He works cash on hand but declared 25k during divorce.

It costs me £16 to £20 a week in wrap around care for his days then mine on top.

can I go to CMS if we have 50/50? I didn’t think I could

no disagreement, if anything things have been more amicable of late. Im scared to ask Incase it rocks the boat!

I think you need to ask him. If things have been amicable and he's always paid his share, there could be an innocent explanation - has he forgot? Something wrong with his bank? I'd definitely raise it with him

I will try to speak to him as this is the best thing, however it took me a year to get him to start paying so I guess I’m just trying to stop this up and down!

it has been quite amicable for the last few months but not before that

Wish me luck

You say you have 5050,do you genuinely have this when you include all school holidays, insets etc?
Do you accommodate him by having your child and then he gets the overnight? If so, I'd review this.
His childcare, I'd get them to bill you separately. Then it's not your issue.
And I'd put q claim in for child maintenance anyway.who claims the child benefits?

Thank you for replying

He has him in holidays as normal until handover day when I pick up in the morning rather then after school so he can work.

I get paid the child benifit

I have asked today about separate billing but they can only set up one parent to pay. She was very nice and appologised for the system being ancient

Thabk you for your reply

Are the children in wraparound 5 days a week? How many days for you and for him?

How is your shared routine worked? Is holidays only taken during your allocated contact?