Older kids still affecting your ability to have a sex life

[Karalula]

I swear I can never have sex anymore. I thought I was safe tonight at 11pm in bed and no I has to run in to separate an argument between my 2 kids, they were awake late due to Easter hols. Then I totally couldn't get back in the mood as I was way too resentful and angry. Can't have date night's as no family to mind kids and friendships aren't all close by or deep enough to take my kids to sleep over. Makes me crazy as I struggle to let go during sex anyway and often turn my partner down on his spontaneity during the day but even in bed when you think your OK at night and stilln9. In the end we had to leave it. Mood totally gone. This happen anyone else. The child is 12

Why is your 12 year old still awake at 11pm? Easter holidays or no Easter holidays that is far too late. Get them to bed earlier so you can enjoy yourselves!

Our solution is early mornings.

Just wait, it gets worse before it gets better!

I'll tell ya why, cos its normally 10 on hols but time got ahead of us, also if I put them too early they're up at cockrow arguing in the room and I'm on my week off from work and I want a break from 7am starts before going bk to them next week

How old is your other child? Either try early mornings when teens are usually sleeping in, or take your partner up on his offer of spontaneous daytime sex. Sometimes quick and spontaneous is more fun anyway.

Feel your pain! My 15 year old
Is in the next room and despite lights off at 10.30 still awake tillmignight! Sick of it - can’t ever enjoy myself

They're 12, even if they're up early at that age they can sort themselves out with breakfast or whatever. Make it clear when the door is shut you are asleep as you are tired

Same here! Bloody annoying as they are always awake
Hard to get in the mood knowing your teens can hear you 😱😱

Can't you just keep the noise down?

6am for us! I go to bed before my teens.

We have a teen who doesn't want to go to bed at night and never to sleep until the early hours, rest are up early on. Just doesn't feel right if they are awake, dh doesn't seem to care as much. We have to be awake before the kids or if either of us wake in the middle of the night and can wake the other we'll crack on then. If I'm not busy I'll take dh up on the offer of daytime fun when he's home if the baby is sleeping and others at school.

I don't make noise. I had to go to break up arguments. Did u see in my post

We just do it quietly or in the morning when the children are asleep. Also we have a lock on our door

@Karalula

I don't make noise. I had to go to break up arguments. Did u see in my post

I was replying to the post above mine.

My. Children are a lot younger but we live in a 3 storey house which means the children sleep on a different floor of the house to me and DH which makes things much easier for us.

A few weeks ago though our 8 year old fell asleep on the sofa at night, in the room next to mine and DH’s and we left him there. When it came to having sex I felt so uncomfortable knowing my child was in the next room, even though he was fast asleep. I couldn’t relax and enjoy it.

Me and DH are looking at moving house and I can’t bear the thought of moving somewhere where we will all be sleeping on the same floor of the house - I feel it will massively impact on our sex life!!

I love reading threads where women talk about the methods they use to maintain an active sex life whilst living with children - it gives me hope!!