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Child maintenance advice

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Babygirlmum · 18/04/2022 23:45

Does anybody have any advice on child maintenance? My ex broke up with me when I was 11 weeks pregnant and made the decision of not being a part of our daughters life, I have now had my baby girl she is 3 weeks old and I am worried to claim child maintenance incase he thinks I'm only out for money out of him, I didn't want to claim child maintenance from him as I am not that person however the way he has handled this situation in regards to not wanting to be a part of his daughters life I think it's only right he pays his way, I think if I go ahead with this his family will want me to get a paternity test and try to make my life hard for claiming CM off him, I don't want to have to do this but he needs to pay for his child and what he's done, has anybody ever experienced this type of situation before? Oh and as far as I'm aware he doesn't even know she's born yet as he's blocked me off everything and told me he doesn't want no involvement so I didn't try to get in content with him when I had her.

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MintJulia · 19/04/2022 00:04

The money isn't for you, it is your child's money, to feed her and clothe her. Yes you should always claim it. You may not need it this week but you never know what her needs will be in the future.

As for a paternity test, fine, if that is what they want. It's a painless couple of minutes which will provide her with some income for the next 18 years.

And since your ex has refused all contact, why should you care what he thinks. He made his views irrelevant the day he blocked you.

I would, out of courtesy, try to inform him of the baby's birth though. By old fashioned letter?

Ponderingwindow · 19/04/2022 00:46

It shouldn’t bother you to have a paternity test done. It won’t hurt your child in any way and it’s a simple way for men to make sure they are indeed obligated to provide financial support.

You should not hesitate to file the proper paperwork to collect the money your child is entitled to have added to the household finances. This isn’t about you. It isn’t about what he thinks of you. It is about making sure your child’s needs are met.

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