6m old in own room

[Anon1324]

I recently moved my 6 and half month old into her own room. She’s slept amazingly and self soothes however I cannot get a good night sleep as I’m constantly checking on her and the slightest noise on the monitor I’m staring at it until she falls asleep. She’s got a bad cough at the moment so is waking me even more (not bothering her as she falls back to sleep) . How long did it take you to become less anxious? FTM mum and I miss her!! She’s not half as bothered as I am!

Ahh OP we moved DD to her room at 6 months and I was so sad, but we both slept much better, so I know how you feel! You'll get used to it eventually, she's 9months now and we don't even turn the monitor on anymore. It might be helpful to start with muting the monitor so you check it less? That's what we did as can hear her anyway, so we weren't disturbed/worried by minor noises but if she needs us it's loud enough without the monitor anyway. Great news that she's sleeping well, long may it continue :)

I moved my first in at 6m but kept my second in until 8m. There’s no harm in keeping her in with you if you’re not comfortable. 6m is the recommended minimum, it’s not a requirement.

Bless you, I did not feel the same way 😆

I moved my daughter into her own room at 6 weeks of age and had the monitor and movement thing for her foot. We used Owlet. And her room was right opposite ours so we could hear her as if she was in the room anyway 🤦‍♀️

We both got much better rest because I only got up when she was actually awake and not just making all the noises they make when they're asleep. I forgot actually how noisy they can be when they're not even awake.

Tbh the constant listening for babies hasn't stopped but you'll stop being so anxious soon x

I moved my DD at 6 months too, and have to admit I had a little cry the first time I went to bed and she wasn't next to me. It doesn't take long at all to get used to them being in another room though, and you'll both sleep better for it. I'm still always 'on alert' and wake if I hear anything (DH somehow can sleep through anything) but am so used to it I instantly fall back asleep x x

Six months is quite young. It's great that she's coping ok but it may be too soon for you, there's no perfect time. Bring her back in with you and get some sleep 🙂

She's still tiny, just bring her back in with you. Follow your instincts!

If you miss her, why don't you just move her back into your room! I wouldn't give up on this special closeness with a small baby before I'd really have to.

Mine is 20 months and I still wake when he coughs or cries through the monitor but we moved him at about 15 months so maybe that's why. Not sure why 6 months seems to be when a lot of parents move their babies into another room, it seems so young to me.

God this is making me feel like a dreadful mum - I could not WAIT for DD to be 6 months so I could get her out of my room!

@LillyLeaf

Mine is 20 months and I still wake when he coughs or cries through the monitor but we moved him at about 15 months so maybe that's why. Not sure why 6 months seems to be when a lot of parents move their babies into another room, it seems so young to me.

It's because that's when the guidelines say it's safe to do so

@MolliciousIntent

God this is making me feel like a dreadful mum - I could not WAIT for DD to be 6 months so I could get her out of my room!

😂 came here to say the same!!! I think I jumped for joy when mine slept in her own room 😂

Can you move with her? That's what I did, and they still get to get used to their own room and fall asleep alone in the evening. You don't have to miss her.

@MolliciousIntent

God this is making me feel like a dreadful mum - I could not WAIT for DD to be 6 months so I could get her out of my room!

Me too, but we still didn't move her tip she was 16m. That was purely laziness though, it was only then that she'd gone a couple of months without waking for input in the night, and we didn't want to be having to traipse up and down the hallway to her room. As it happens she started regularly night waking at the age of 3, she's nearly 4 and still often does. So we've spent almost a year having to do that now anyway with no end in sight yet. We also now have a 6 month old that is a much worse sleeper than she was too. He's in our room because again we don't want to have to be traipsing up and down to another room too on top of DD's wakings. He still typically has two milk feeds a night as well as numerous other wakes for dummy, cuddles rocking etc. Knackered but would be even more so if I had to go in and out a different room each time.

I was the same when my lo moved to her own room (ftm also) i put her in her own room at 6 months also and she slept so much better! She pretty much dropped her night feed herself as she was sleeping through.
I would wake up so much in the night even when she hadn't, I used to still go in sometimes and just quietly check on her just for my piece of mind but it does get easier within time.
I did consider bringing her back in with me for the same reason but she was sleeping so much better, I think me & my husband moving around and making noise in our sleep disturbed her more than I thought!

Do what you think is right for you & your lo, if you would feel more comfortable bringing her back in with you than do so and try again another time x