Mum guilt

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Just need to vent really. I’m 4 months in and wow it’s so strong already?

We booked DS’ nursery place recently (I have no choice but to go back to work after 9 months and we only have limited childcare) and I just feel horrible?

I wish I could be a SAHM and spend all my time with him I love maternity leave and every single day. I’ve cried I feel so guilty sending him off to strangers it makes me so sad

Is this normal? DH reminds me it’s a good thing and that I’ll adjust and I know I will because I’ll have to :(

I just feel so sad I love him so much. He doesn’t go for a few more months but I’m already dreading this transition!!

My first was 9 months when I went back to work and I really dreaded it, she had never been away from me for more than a couple of hours at a time because I was a really overbearing tbh lol I was so worried that she would think I abandoned her but honestly it was the best thing for both of us, i really needed to get back to some kind of normality and she learned to be more comfortable around others. She’s now a really happy confident 3 year old and has great social skills for her age she’d literally talk to anyone. Your baby will be fine 🙂

He will be fine. I had very very contradicting feelings. I was struggling so much with motherhood during maternity leave, but I also felt a lot of guilt when DD was starting nursery full time at 12 months. I felt like I could not stay at home and look after her one day longer, but I cried every day of her first week at nursery. It's normal and she was absolutely fine. Don't worry, it's still a long way away! x

My 16 month old just started with a childminder last week for the first time.
We was lucky that I had 9 months maternity and my husband was at home then with her until he started his job.
I was so upset coming up to me returning to work, I hated leaving her but it did make it easier knowing she was at home with her dad.
Come January we had to start looking for a childminder to have in place to start for her and I cried so many times the thought of leaving her and kept thinking she is only little she should be with us...
The first day dropping her off broke my heart, I knew she was in good hands however as the week went on and hearing how she was doing and all the lovely things they get up to actually made it abit easier.
Speaking to my brother who's son also went to a childminder he couldn't praise it enough, he reassured me that its great for them socialising, learning and getting them ready for school.
I know its hard but try and think of the positives that they will get out of it and it does make it easier x