Night weaning a comfort fed baby!

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Firstly I know I've made a rod for my own back here so just want to get that out there, please don't come for me!

My baby is 1 and the last week or so I've successfully weaned her off breastfeeding during the day, she's totally fine with whole milk and if she comes for my boobs I take that as a hunger/thirst cue and offer her cow's milk or food and she's fine.

My trouble is at night, she mainly feeds to sleep or actually will feed then often take her self off and snuggle in to go to sleep (as opposed to falling asleep boob in mouth), we also co sleep most of the night (my partner in another bed). She goes down fine in cot for naps and first stretch of bed time but anytime between 10-12 it's more than likely she'll end up with me. From 7pm-7am she'll breastfeed a minimum of 3 times a night, often more. If I don't offer her the boob she'll lose her shit and scream until I do, I've not yet tried offering her milk from her straw cup as not sure if that's then just switching one comfort to another.
I have friends who have done the cry it out method and while the results sound great it's simply just not for us and not something I will try.
So my question is, do I just stop offering her the boob when she wakes up at night and stick it out, should I also stop cosleeping as I'm not sure if she only wakes because it's inches from her face.

For reference she goes down awake at nursery and sends her self to sleep no milk, of course! But we've had a few weeks of illness which has made her more into the comfort feeding than she was before as she was pretty good at self settling up until a few weeks ago.

How do people do it! My boob (I now only use right as left dried up) is starting to hurt when she feeds and I'm ready to stop, just don't know how!

I sent my husband into my sons bedroom to sort it out between themselves. They duked it put for a couple of nights, my son chided my husband, my husband chided my son and by the end of two nights they were friends again and he was night weaned and they are still great friends now 8 years later plus DS fed fur another year during the day. The End

I night weaned because I was pregnant and the comfort feeding became too uncomfortable. I basically kept repeating “boobies have gone to sleep, it’s sleepy time. You can have a cuddle” over and over. DD was furious the first night but it didn’t take long for her to get used to it and happily accept a cuddle. She was 17 months at the time.

Basically the pain / discomfort of feeding at the time had become more than the discomfort of being kept awake and her kicking off about it so it gave me the will to persevere. It helped that I decided my boundaries in my head before I started (happy to feed to sleep at bedtime, happy to feed in the morning after 6 but would not feed in between).

I felt that as I was still offering comfort through my presence/ cuddles it wasn’t as bad as controlled crying methods (although there was crying but it was an angry cry rather than a scared cry if that makes sense)

We stayed co sleeping whilst I did this, with my logic being it would be easier to only change one thing at a time. Then after a few weeks we swapped to DH cosleeping with her to get her used to him being the main person in the night before the baby arrives.

We’ve since moved her to her own room but there’s space for DH to camp out in there when needed (like tonight as she has a grotty cold)