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Resent motherhood

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babyblues2 · 13/04/2022 09:52

I don't know what to do. I have a 7 month old. Some weeks I'm on top of the world others I want to crawl under a rock and die. I have a supportive partner, it's me that's the one with issues. We planned something nice at the weekend but it just descended into so much stress, anxiety and fights. And I think oh fuck is this it?! I feel numb and lethargic. I can't take the crying and whingeing and constant mess. I want someone to take this baby away, she'd be better off without me anyway. She's a gorgeous, innocent thing but something's broken in me. I'm not fit to be a mum. Thanks for listening to my melodramatic rant.

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mrziggycoco · 13/04/2022 09:56

The fact you are worried like this shows you are fit to be a mother. You love your baby. She isn't better off with anyone except you, as you are what she wants, you're her mother.

What else are you doing aside from caring for your baby?

Chely · 13/04/2022 10:36

It could be worth having a chat with your GP about your feelings.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 13/04/2022 11:06

You're completely normal. Motherhood is a massive shock. Please share how you are feeling with your nearest and dearest and ask for help.

You need to prioritise your own well-being as well as looking after your baby. What time do you currently get to yourself? How much sleep are you getting? Do you have time for gentle exercise and fresh air? Are you eating healthily?

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GalactatingGoddess · 13/04/2022 11:23

What @UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea said.

It's a huge shock, I remember DD being 4 months old and I felt so trapped and angry. I felt like life was over. I was also massively sleep deprived. Do not underestimate the power of sleep. Seriously.

Things gradually got better, some days are still stressful/shit (particularly financially now she's in nursery) but after 12 months when I went back to work they have started to improve. I feel more 'myself' and I enjoy her more.

Duracellbunnywannabe · 13/04/2022 11:27

You sound depressed. Having a baby can screw with the chemical balance in your brain and then looking after a baby is like having a bomb going off in you’re life. Please talk to your GP and HV.

Mummy1608 · 13/04/2022 12:36

I think this is pretty normal actually, having a baby that age is really hard - my dd is now a toddler and it's much easier. I don't think you sound like you need curing by the gp imo, these are ordinary emotions by the sound of it. Especially going away is really hard, holidays aren't relaxing anymore with a baby! But things will get easier!!

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