Got cross with my 13 month old

[Mumofloulou21]

Hi everyone,

So last night my LO woke at 1am (his sleep has been buggered for a while - nursery, teething, illnesses and etc.) it got to 2:30 and I was slowly getting more and more stressed as he just wouldn't go back in his cot. I left his room to clam down and he was crying so much I had to go back in. I got him settled again, went to put him down and he woke up...that's when I just picked him up laid him back down again and whilst he was upset and distressed and although I didn't shout I did raise my voice and he definitely knew I was angry!

I feel sick about it. I'm just so tired and don't know what I'm going to do when I go back to work like this if he continues to have this crazy sleep.

I dropped him off at nursery and cried for 30 mins in the car about last night and dropping him off and leaving him. I feel just heartbroken I lost it like that.

Will he remember it? Will it affect him?

Please someone tell me it's ok to lose it sometimes 😞

He'll forget about it. Don't be so hard on yourself.

He'll be fine op don't worry. Don't be so hard on yourself - lack of sleep is really hard!

My 10 month old is currently sleeping with me on a night due to teething/seperation anxiety etc. Is that an option for you?

Hugs to you - and coffee!

It’s ok, babies test the patience of saints! I have a photo of tiny dd asleep (I must of sent it to DP in a ‘finally!’ way) that I can’t look at now because of getting to the point you were at. She fell asleep after battling it (and me) for ages and I’d reached the point raising my voice and asking her what the bloody problem was.

Embrace your guilt though, that’s what stops us going any further and is evidence we love them and want to protect them.

This is a tough phase, but it does get better I promise. If you’ve someone to get help from so you can rest bite their hand off, if not then you need to find ways to get rest. Bringing dd into my bed worked for me but it might not for you.

It won’t do any lasting damage to change the scenery for a bit on nights like that, take him into the living room and watch some useless tv if you need to and then try again in half an hour or so.

@Cornettoninja thank you so much.

He eventually came into my bed at 4am and slept until 7. I would do this all day every day if I could, but I know it's not always practical or ideal. I think he's got so much going on atm that being with me comforts him.

I've just taken myself for a coffee and some brekkie and starting to feel much better after speaking to the nursery who have said he's absolutely fine and happy playing!

It's just the thought of not knowing how long this constant rollercoaster of sleep will last and how I'll cope. It's so good to hear it gets better and to be honest I've heard that so much from my nursery mum friends, but when you're in the thick of it it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel!

Xx

If he sleeps better in bed with you then do that. Go with what gets you all the most sleep.

I think most parents have said some choice or cross words in the middle of the night. Don't beat yourself up.

He will be absolutely fine, next time just leave the room cause honestly it traumatises you more than them! My DS had 2 bad nights he refused to stay in his cot and I'm 37 weeks pregnant so I just put him in the bed, If he's a good sleeper usually than a night in bed with you won't do any harm

@Hmum0fthree

Thank you. He did come into bed with me eventually. I wouldn't say he's the best sleeper, but also not the worst.

I suppose you've just got to do to get through right?

@Bornsloppy thank you!

@Thesearmsofmine totally agree!

@Peppapig7262662

Thank you! I suppose we just have to do what we have to do right?

Aww hugs back to you and YES...coffee!!

[quote Mumofloulou21]@Cornettoninja thank you so much.

He eventually came into my bed at 4am and slept until 7. I would do this all day every day if I could, but I know it's not always practical or ideal. I think he's got so much going on atm that being with me comforts him.

I've just taken myself for a coffee and some brekkie and starting to feel much better after speaking to the nursery who have said he's absolutely fine and happy playing!

It's just the thought of not knowing how long this constant rollercoaster of sleep will last and how I'll cope. It's so good to hear it gets better and to be honest I've heard that so much from my nursery mum friends, but when you're in the thick of it it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel!

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Having an infant sleep with you is practical and is ideal. It's what saved me from sleep deprivation. It's where baby wants to be. This effort to make them sleep alone is futile and torturous and so unnecessary.

@Cornettoninja my gosh yes! Just don't get my started on the CIO and sleep training 😡