I have an 8 week old baby. It is my first baby. My husband and I are living with his parents until we can save for our own place.
My FIL is a strange character, he often makes inappropriate jokes which make me uncomfortable. But I put this down to him wanting to be centre of attention as he always has to be the one that is heard in the room and centre of a conversation. When in gatherings if conversations aren't focused around him he often leaves the room.
We normally keep our baby in a moses basket when downstairs, when he's sleeping. My Father in law would often walk past not paying any attention to the baby. He also says he doesn't pick up babies as he is scared of dropping them.
I visited my parents for a couple of weeks when I got back it came up in conversation about how my dad was with babies ( my dad is great with his grandchildren and makes a fuss of them when they go around his) I feel like since this conversation my Father in law is constantly over the moses basket, making a fuss of the baby. If I am holding him, my FIL will be hovering around me trying to fuss the baby. He, all of a sudden, wants to start picking the baby up. My baby was crying at dinner the once and he asked to take the baby. I was trying to comfort my baby and I felt a little inadequate when he asked. I left for the hallway and continued to try and calm my baby down. He stood watching through the doorway, and when my baby had quietened he came straight over asking if he had fallen asleep. He hasn't, and started crying again.
I don't understand my FILs sudden change and it really unnerved me and makes me uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to deal with it or how to approach it with my husband.