What can I do with my 3 month old?

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DS is nearly 4 months old, we got to baby classes 3 times a week but they’re all on a break for 2 weeks and only last 6 weeks at a time!

I don’t drive (learning, failed test before birth then had emcs so had to wait longer to start learning :( ) so I heavily rely on public transport

If the weathers bad I feel a bit locked up I have a rain cover for the pram but I worry it’s too cold etc

Any ideas? What are little things I can do for him I’m worried I don’t do enough

Do nothing. Do what you want to do - go shopping or for a coffee. They honestly will just like being with you. They don't need any other form of stimulation at that age.

Literally whatever you want to do, at that age classes aremore for parents than babies anyway

All a baby that age needs is you. Talk to him, read to him, dance with him, listen to music, play in the sink/bath.

I've never taken my 3 month old to a class. We just hang out at home (mainly eating, pooping, a bit of playing and and lots of sleeping - her not me :)) or she comes along with me to whatever I need to be doing I.e pop in to town, walking with friends for a catch up and exercise, seeing family etc. Admittedly I do have a car so can get around more easily but yeah, I don't worry too much and just get on with my days. She seems happy enough with that.

@Abridget7 is right, your baby doesn’t need much in the way of actual activities so you can do pretty much whatever you can get to.

Check out your local cinema if you can get there, some run special showings for mums with small babies (lower volumes I think) but you could probably do that anyway if your baby is a reliable napper, you could position a baby hat with some extra cotton wool padding to combat normal cinema speaker volumes.

Explore where you can get to on the public transport you do have, look on Google maps and just head to a coffee shop or cafe. I found all the sainsburys on our transport network when dd was small, they have good changing facilities!

Please don’t worry, at that age it really doesn’t matter. So just do whatever stops you going mad from boredom.
I did a lot of browsing in charity shops - found some amazing bargains, both for me and toys for the baby. And the volunteers love cooing over a baby.

I was you, worrying about not doing enough with my young baby. People told me not to worry but I worried anyway and ran myself ragged going to lots of classes and trying to make sure he had varied stimulation.

My child is now 5 and when I look back I think I was unnecessarily worrying and should have just relaxed and enjoyed pleasing myself, as at that age you can just do what your want and take them along with you.

Do whatever suits you and enjoy your baby.

I went to every class I could when I could, but DD was born as our area went into local lockdown and then tiers and lots of reopening then closing again etc. Classes are for you, to get out and see others and give some ideas for stuff to do at home and add a bit of structure to your day and sometimes get tea and a biscuit. That’s not to say they’re not important as those things are important and YOU are important. But your baby really won’t care or miss them when they’re not on and he doesn’t need you to be doing more for him honestly.

It’s so true that they’re just happy to hang out with you. I wish I’d put less pressure on myself. Everything is a new and exciting experience for them.

Some stuff we did at that age/ still do - Go for a walk with the pram and look at some trees or a busy road or a greengrocers with lots of colourful fruit and veg. Let him watch the washing machine or the rain on the window. Walk him round the house showing things and telling him what they are and what they do. Put the radio on and dance around with him in your arms. Sing nursery rhymes. Play peekaboo with one of those colourful scarves or with a muslin or tea towel. Get a foil emergency blanket and let him kick about on it, put it over his playgym thing and lie under it with him - shine light up toys on it if you have any. If you have one that will sit in the bouncy chair or lie on the mat for a bit without you then make the most of it now - chat/ sing to him as you potter about. Look at books. Look in the mirror together - pull faces and blow raspberries. Go on iplayer and look up some episodes of the baby club if you want to join in with those. There was an organisation called Beautiful New Beginnings that did free classes and groups all through lockdowns - no idea if still free but you could check their Facebook page to see.