Please help

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First time mum. DS is 3 and 1/2 months old!

He was a relatively good sleeper until about a week or two ago. He’d wake twice for feeds which he still does but at the minute he is waking every half hour-1 hour to be settled.

Getting him in his cot is so difficult (he’s in a bedside cot) he used to go down around 9pm and only wake for feeds now he goes down and I’m settling him every half hour until the next feed

We stayed in my parents house last week and we did the same routine (he had fewer naps due to seeing so many people and being excited and not wanting to sleep in day) had the same cot in the guest bedroom - and he went through the night without needing to be settled

This made me think does he not like our home the environment? I don’t know why he wouldn’t all of a sudden but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong has anyone got any tips here please I’m so exhausted :( and I feel like I’ve ruined a good pattern somehow why won’t he go in his cot anymore xx

I'm no expert but could it be 4 month sleep regression?
My DD has never slept in cot but her whole sleep pattern changed at 4 months and has only just changed back again (4 weeks later)!

Hey OP, those early months are tough!
If he's 3.5 months he could be due for his 4 month sleep regression.

This is a period where you baby is developing new skills and reaching new milestones like rolling over. If he's rolled over recently that could be the cause or he's about to start rolling.

Developmental leaps are hard cause your baby's just really excited about learning all these new skills.

The first developmental leap was such a struggle for me cause like your baby mine was sleeping so well and then overnight DC changed his sleeping habits so dramatically, it was such a shock but you just gotta run with it.

What really helped change my mindset was when my maternal health nurse told me 'a lot of people think of sleep regression in a negative light because it the word regression suggests going backwards but in reality your baby is just too excited to sleep cause he's learning new things about his world and is moving forward in his development'.

Just in case it's not a developmental leap check his temperature and gums.
You know your baby best. I know it's hard when you're not getting any rest but hang in there OP! You got this!

Thank you my gut instinct was that it’s the sleep regression as daytime naps have been haywire and even when he’s so tired it takes about 10-20 minutes to settle him. And he won’t nap anywhere else then on me!

He spent the night in our bed (safe co sleeping method) there’s nothing wrong with co sleeping but I personally don’t want to do it and with my c section scar that still aches I find it difficult as it’s a bit uncomfortable all over doing the c shape! But I had to pick my battles last night

He is starting to roll onto one side then back, me and DH are convinced soon will be the full roll over so maybe this is it too? Thanks for the advice

My main worry has been about creating habits as he was doing so well in his cot but I guess I just have to go with the flow and not worry about creating habits!

Ignore anyone who tells you you’re making ‘bad’ habits.

When you have a baby you literally just have to get by doing what ever you can to get the most sleep.

The 4m sleep regression hit us like a train with our first. Didn’t affect our second. Their sleep isn’t your responsibility so please don’t put that pressure on yourself, they’re all different.

Just get by.

Hi Mums
So I've started weaning my 5 month old daughter. I want some help. She was born 1 month premature. I asked on a weaning group on Facebook and everyone as said I should wait seeing as she was premature. I just want some help and advice. (My 2 year old was born on her due date and I started weaning her at 5 months too.)
So my 5 month old as her first bottle at 6am and then I give her breakfast at half 7 with my other 2 year old daughter. Eventually I want to get her in the same routine as my 2 year old. She won't stay asleep after 5:30am that's why I give her a bottle. Should I start giving her, her breakfast at 6 or just keep to the 7:30 routine?
Any advice please mums I find my heath visitors useless.
Thanks