Nightshifts

[ThelastRolo20]

Hi all, just looking for some input as to what dh and I can do with nightshifts for our 3 month old. As I'm ebf I've done 100% of nightshifts since day one and dh is in the spare room to sleep (I'm incredibly envious!). For the first couple months he didn't work so would come and give me an hour's rest at around 6am so I got about 4 hours broken sleep a night .

By 10 or so weeks we had 6 hour stretches with 1 wake-up so could easily cope with this. However, the day DD turned 3 months she has been a lot trickier to put down, and sleep lengths are erratic - last night I got 4 hours broken sleep again as I just couldn't get back off as had to resort to co sleeping as she had a sudden aversion to the snuzpod! Coupled with DH going back to work I no longer get an hour first thing to help catch up.

DH would happily help with nightshifts once or twice a week but given she's ebf I'm not sure what he can do? Can anyone who ebfs let me know if they've found a way to split nightshifts, or whether I need to resign myself to 100% nightshift duty until DD is fully night weaned?? When you're tired with a screaming baby it just seems to far away in the future.

Thanks! One sleep deprived mum

I EBF my second and combi my first (but breastfed at night time)

Get DH back into your bed with you. My husband was always there next to me despite working full time and in the days of having to go to an office.

If I'd had a really bad night he'd get up early with the baby to give me a few more hours.

He'd bring me some tea every morning when he left for work.

He understood that a bad night = a nap for me in the afternoon which meant the house might not be tidy when he got home.

When he wasn't at work he'd have baby to let me nap.